Post # 1
My husband and I got married on May 2nd and we bothe decided to wait and do our honeymoon in the Fall, well, now it’s probably going to be end of November, early December.
So I’m at work, researching and asking for opinions on the Caribbean, and my coworker says (since I had a Destination Wedding, paid for by my wonderful parents) “well, you just had this extravagent huge wedding and now your going to have this huge honeymoon? Why would you do that?”
Am I being extravagant and selfish? My Husband and I have NEVER been alone on a trip except an occasional weekend. Never a full week ALONE, and I really would love to go somewhere I’ve never been….
Post # 3
I don’t see how oging to the Caribbean is a huge honeymoon. If you were going to Europe for 5 months or something, that’s a huge trip, but a simple trip to the Caribbean isn’t really that huge. Just ignore her.
Post # 4
No, you are not being extravagant. Your coworker is probably just jealous that you have the ability and the chance to go on this wonderful trip. You should do what you want, and enjoy it!
Post # 5
Just curious – was this co-worker invited to your wedding? How did she know how extravagant it was?
Post # 6
sounds to me as though she’s being a bit of a sourpuss because she’s jealous. I think you deserve a honeymoon – vacations are nice for everyone whether they are a honeymoon or not! And, like MissAsB said, I don’t think a week in the caribbean is that extravagant, or a “huge” trip.
Post # 7
I think she´s jealous or something I agree with MissAsB, a trip to the Caribbean isn’t really THAT huge.
Post # 8
You’re not being extravagant. Who says that brides with destination weddings can’t have honeymoons? Especially with a gap of several months between.
Congratulations on your recent wedding! Enjoy your honeymoon! It’s possible she’s jealous or has her own issues—don’t let her rain on your happiness though.
Post # 9
I agree with MissAsB. A week beach vacation is nothing that she should be saying is too extravagant… look at how many people do week trips multiple times a year nevermind their honeymoon!
Post # 10
Jealous smelly coworkers should keep their traps shut 😉
Post # 11
I can see her point that you just went on a trip for your wedding, maybe she thought the two of you stayed at your destination longer and had time to relaxe. I don’t think her comment was out of jealousy or that she meant to hurt your feelings.
Post # 12
Honestly, even if you WERE doing a 6 month extravaganza all across Europe, I would still think it’s way rude to comment that you don’t “need to do that”. If you guys can afford it and want to go, then go for it! Especially since you haven’t had any sort of honeymoon yet. Just ignore her.
Post # 13
I think you should do whatever you want! As long as you’re financially stable, you have the time from work and you’re not missing any important events- who cares what you want to do?
I just almost had to have this ‘conversation’ with my Future Sister-In-Law. My Fiance and I are going on a nice trip to DR with his brother and his wife in August, 1.5 months after our honeymoon. We invited FI’s younger sister just to be nice (but the boys didn’t want her to come!) and she was like, “well, I can’t make it because I have school and work… but, uh… enjoy your second honeymoon”. Instead of justifying it, I just said, “I sure will!!!”
Why do people even feel a need to judge what you want to do? Or why, or when? Jeez
Post # 14
@Ngolden1 — Yes, she did come to the wedding, we had about 90 people attend, so it wasn’t HUGE but it was a Destination Wedding, and it turned out to be everything I had dreamed… :o)
My husband and I didn’t even get to spend the days following the wedding alone. Our family stayed in the beach house with us. And don’t get me wrong! That’s exactly how we wanted it! wedding = family right? We have the rest of our lives to be alone. ;o)
So that’s why we came up with postponing the honeymoon…
Post # 15
Maybe I am wrong but don’t most people that have a Destination Wedding still take time for a honeymoon, either where they got married or somewhere else? The wedding was WORK so I think you deserve your time off. You gotta love those “helpful people” that are worried about you using all of your vacation time or spending too much money. Go enjoy a week away with your husband!
Post # 16
Even if you had gone on a honeymoon – what you do with your time and money really isn’t the business of your co-worker. If you guys want to and have the budget to go – GO and have a fantastic time. I’d maybe just avoid looking/talking about it in front of this person.