Post # 1
So I have been invited to a baby shower….Let me break it down:
This man and I have mutual friends…we hung out in this group a handful of times….he is a “friend” on my facebook. I have not hung out or really talk to him in over a year.
The girl he is engaged too and gave birth…I dont know from a hole in the ground. But she has invited me via face book events along with several other girls to a cosmetic botox party when she first moved to the area. I declined and told her to give me a few decades….(I later found out she did this because she was hired to be a receptionist to a cosmetic surgeon and would get $$ from it not just out of the kindness of her heart or an attempt to be a friend.
He invited like 100 people (via a facebook event) to this baby shower. I am seriously in the mind set to decline and not send a gift since I feel they are serious gift grubbers.
Any thought of this before I jump to a decision?
Post # 3
Are you invited to the wedding as well?
ETA: I misread. Knowing that it is a baby shower, I would decline. It’s an informal invite, and it does sound “grabby”.
Post # 3
It sounds like you don’t actually have a relationship with these people, so what reason would you have for attending? I would definitely decline.
Post # 4
Facebook invite does not count as a real invite. NO GIFT FOR YOU!
Post # 5
I agree. facebook invites (especially to 100 people) are not real shower invites.
Post # 6
Sounds like they are just inviting anyone they have ever known. I’d decline the invite and don’t feel obliged to send a gift.
Post # 7
Facebook invite? I would decline, but I would send them a congratulatory card when the baby is born.
Post # 8
@Sunshining: not sure yet. their wedding is very far in the future.
Post # 9
Ok good my feelings are justified based on these replies. Thanks all:)
Post # 10
100 people invited to a baby shower? Dear god, if that’s a gift grab I don’t know what is.
They can’t be expecting all these people to actually come. They must just be hoping the people they’re not as close to will just decline and send gifts. I have no idea what I would do if I was pregnant and 100 people came to my shower. Probably run and hide.
Post # 11
If you want to go, then you should. But don’t turn up with a gift, as it does sound like that’s all they’re after x
Post # 12
Lol @ no gift for you..totally read in a “soup nazi’ voice
Post # 13
It doesn’t feel gift grabby – it just feel super impersonal and they just want a big ol’ shower.
Post # 14
Like most mass-invitations I receive on FB, I’d probably just ignore this one and not even respond. A FB invite to something so important is crap, IMO. This is kind of like a free for all, not personal at all. Don’t even acknowledge you got the invite!
Post # 15
For the record, a girl I don’t even know, but is a friend of my step-son, invited EVERYONE on her friend’s list to her engagement party. Or some sort of party revolving around the wedding.
It’s possible that he did the same thing. Maybe.
Either way, if you don’t want to go… don’t. There’s no rule or law saying you have to go.
Also… I always thought the baby shower was BEFORE the baby came… I know some people do it after, but… ummmm… still. I’m usually a bit more wary with the “afters” because of the quesion “did they have one before and just didn’t invite me and this is just a way to get more stuff they don’t want to buy?”
of course, i’m also cynical and question people I don’t know… 😉