Post # 1
Bees…. I have a question. It’s been about a month since the wedding, and we got our professional photos back. We meet with the photographer tomorrow to go over them. Well, I just caught wind that one of my other family members has already been in contact with the photographer and placed an order. Is this a bit nervy? After all, we (the bride and groom) haven’t even had a chance to pick our own yet!
Post # 3
I would hate that. I, as the bride, feel that I have a right to decide which pro pics I’d like to share with guests.
Post # 4
While it kind of sucks that someone was able to see the photos before, getting super upset about it changes nothing. Your photographer should be allowed to make their money. The order from the family member doesn’t impact your order, after all.
Post # 5
Let it go. They didn’t know when you were meeting with the photog. You should be happy they placed an order at all. Most the time people forget.
Post # 6
Why would they know if you’d had a chance to look at the pics already? I vote irrational.
Post # 7
I do think its awkward. However, you can’t throw a fit over it because that will only leave a bad feeling with everyone. I’d let the photographer know you heard about the order, and you’re happy they did that to make it easy for your guests, you just wish you had a chance to see the pictures first. As for the guest, thats ballsy – unless they were perhaps purchasing pictures for you and Fiance as a gift?
Post # 8
I’d be thrilled that they’re so excited.
Post # 9
maybe see if you can ask those people for copies of their order maybe it would save cots. It is rude, but may as well make the best of it
Post # 10
I don’t find this rude at all. The photographer likely had cards to hand out to guests who asked about placing orders, and since most of us are incredibly busy and/or incredibly exhausted right after our weddings, it’s no surprise that a guest made a call to the photog first. I’d be a little tickled that one of my guests were so enthusiastic about buying my wedding photos!
Post # 11
I think the photographer should have mentioned to the ordering people, to wait until the bride and groom has seen the photos first… He was rude. I don’t care if it’s the photographers pictures, copyright etc… the bride and groom should see them first since they are the ones who paid him!
Post # 12
Did they know you hadn’t looked at them? Either way, it is not worth getting mad over 🙂
Post # 13
Maybe, unless it’s photos of you and your husband yes. But if it’s pictures of themselves they ordered I don’t see what the big deal is.
On another note is this a common thing I never heard of family members outside of parents, ordering extra for themsevles without permission from the bride and groom??
I have a list of aunts and uncles and important people who will get one photo of my Fi and I and some family portraits.
Post # 14
How do they know what shots they want if YOU just got the proofs back? Or was it someone who said, “I want a family shot, I want the one of me with the bride”…?
Post # 15
I would let it go. Guests should get to pick the photos they would like if they are paying for their own order.
Post # 16
I’d be mad at the photog. If the pictures wer ready for ordering, why had she not showed them to me arleady. And there’s no rule saying the bride/groom get to order thier pictures first. If you slack and wait a few months (like I did) does that mean no one else should get to order pictures they want?