(Closed) Am I being irrational?

posted 6 years ago in Photos/Videos
  • poll: Is this nervy?
    Yes : (28 votes)
    42 %
    No : (34 votes)
    51 %
    Other (explain) : (5 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    763 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011


    I would hate that.  I, as the bride, feel that I have a right to decide which pro pics I’d like to share with guests. 


    Post # 4
    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    While it kind of sucks that someone was able to see the photos before, getting super upset about it changes nothing. Your photographer should be allowed to make their money. The order from the family member doesn’t impact your order, after all.

    Post # 5
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Let it go. They didn’t know when you were meeting with the photog.  You should be happy they placed an order at all. Most the time people forget.

    Post # 6
    5786 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Why would they know if you’d had a chance to look at the pics already? I vote irrational.

    Post # 7
    857 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I do think its awkward. However, you can’t throw a fit over it because that will only leave a bad feeling with everyone. I’d let the photographer know you heard about the order, and you’re happy they did that to make it easy for your guests, you just wish you had a chance to see the pictures first. As for the guest, thats ballsy – unless they were perhaps purchasing pictures for you and Fiance as a gift? 

    Post # 8
    5075 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’d be thrilled that they’re so excited.  

    Post # 9
    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    maybe see if you can ask those people for copies of their order maybe it would save cots. It is rude, but may as well make the best of it

    Post # 10
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t find this rude at all. The photographer likely had cards to hand out to guests who asked about placing orders, and since most of us are incredibly busy and/or incredibly exhausted right after our weddings, it’s no surprise that a guest made a call to the photog first. I’d be a little tickled that one of my guests were so enthusiastic about buying my wedding photos!

    Post # 11
    5428 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think the photographer should have mentioned to the ordering people, to wait until the bride and groom has seen the photos first… He was rude. I don’t care if it’s the photographers pictures, copyright etc… the bride and groom should see them first since they are the ones who paid him!

    Post # 12
    1314 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Did they know you hadn’t looked at them? Either way, it is not worth getting mad over 🙂


    Congrats Mrs!!!

    Post # 13
    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Maybe, unless it’s photos of you and your husband yes. But if it’s pictures of themselves they ordered I don’t see what the big deal is.

    On another note is this a common thing I never heard of family members outside of parents, ordering extra for themsevles without permission from the bride and groom??

    I have a list of aunts and uncles and important people who will get one photo of my Fi and I and some family portraits.


    Post # 14
    476 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    How do they know what shots they want if YOU just got the proofs back?  Or was it someone who said, “I want a family shot, I want the one of me with the bride”…?

    Post # 15
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would let it go. Guests should get to pick the photos they would like if they are paying for their own order.

    Post # 16
    14345 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I’d be mad at the photog.  If the pictures wer ready for ordering, why had she not showed them to me arleady.  And there’s no rule saying the bride/groom get to order thier pictures first.  If you slack and wait a few months (like I did) does that mean no one else should get to order pictures they want?

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