(Closed) Am I being mean/selfish?

posted 6 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What do you think?
    Just have one party and invite both groups, suck it up! : (7 votes)
    11 %
    Two separate events is best. Dance with your girls, and drink another night with the ladies. : (56 votes)
    88 %
    Other- please comment : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    14498 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Your not being selfish.  Have you talked to your mom about it?  I know that mine wouldn’t want to be there anyway.

    Post # 4
    1235 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Have 2 seperate nights..you deserve to be able to cut loose without worrying about your mom!

    Post # 7
    368 posts
    Helper bee

    I would have one bachelorette party with your girls, or two seperate. It’s kind of weird when mother’s join in on bachelorette parties to me. I mean do you really want to see me getting down with my friends? I think not lol.

    Post # 8
    2584 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Wow, I’ve never heard of a mom and her friends being at the bachelorette party… that would be super awkward and we aren’t even going to be drinking or partying. Definitely try to separate it.

    Post # 10
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I disagree with most posters on this.  I think you should have veryone invited to one event.  You can go out with your girls any time and have it be just them. 

    Post # 11
    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m suprised your mom and her friends would even want to go. I party and drink with my mom and her friends and can totally let loose with them (they are a blast), but I can’t imagine any of them wanting to come to bachlorette party. 

    You’ve surely gone out with your friends without involving your mom and her friends before. I would say just plan a night out with your girlfriends and if your mom and her friends want to plan something else for you let them.

    Post # 12
    1628 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    It is so strange to me that she would even want to go! I mean, unless your mom and her friends regularly go out drinking and dancing (and I mean the way you plan to have the bach party, not like some wine and dancing at a wedding) then it just seems odd. And on top of that, bach parties usually are the bridal party and bride’s close friends only–so most others would not expect to be invited. Have you made it clear to her that this is going to be a bit more raunchy or wild than simply a night out with the girls?

    Post # 13
    1189 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I think it’s strange when mothers and their friends want to join in on bachelorette parties. I’d just do a bach party with your girlfriends and let mom and her friends attend the bridal shower only, on another day completely.

    Post # 14
    7609 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Girl, I would NOT want to get down with my Mom in a club, haha!  I think you should just have two nights.  You’re not being selfish IMO!

    Post # 15
    679 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I did not have my mom, Mother-In-Law, or other family like that invited to my bachelorette party.  I didn’t feel like it was appropriate for them to be there.  I don’t think you’re being selfish at all.

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