(Closed) Am I being overly sensitive?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@ShutterbugCait:  

I would say that you are going a little into the over sensitive area- but with good reason. I mean people are strange, and sometimes just nosey by nature. A lot of times when I am scrolling through tons of FB posts on my newsfeed nothing catches my eye like a picture. Maybe she wanted to give you a real congratulations if you had just bought your first home with FI?  I kind of think it’s strange when a person I haven’t seen (or spoke to) in 7 years comments on a fb post, but then again what is fb for? I kind of keep myself in check that they are probably just being nice, and trying to show interest.

Do you miss this girl? Would you and FI still like to have her in your lives as a friend? Maybe this was her way of testing the waters to see if friendship is still an option. If she was a nice person, and offered real friendship, reach out to her. Maybe she fell off because she was going through a tough time and now she is seeking her life back?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I think it’s a bit nosy, but no reason to get offended.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@DeathByDesign:  +1

When we bought our house we had a few people who asked questions like that, mostly because we were really young. 

Also, maybe she feels a little awkward as well and wants to be back “in” your life but doesn’t really know the best way to go about it?

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

It’s a little awkard, but I wouldn’t be offended. If it came from someone else would you be offended? Or just because there is such bad history there?

Post # 8
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Worker bee

  The  ‘oh ok.’ response is a little strange I must admit, but I wouldn’t let someone who hasn’t been in your life for a while, bother you about a small comment. It strikes me as a strange conversation (in how minimal it was) – you sort of wonder why did she bother?

   Maybe she had a reason and hasn’t mentioned it yet (you could ask her why she asked in a ‘want to reply about the details you are interested about’ way’ )

    Maybe she was just looking for a chance to open up communication again and didn’t handle it too well. I would just send her a friendly answer and leave the ball in her court and see what happens…..

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It was just a nosy question. Miss Manners would probably disagree, but I don’t think it was out of line to ask, nor do I think it is something to be offended over.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I understand where you are coming from. If I were you, I would have ignored the question and just not responded to her. It’s really nosy of her to ask and especially on FB where everyone can see. I would have ignored her.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

I think you are being sensitive about it, because it’s her.  Think about the person in your life right now, other than DH, that you love spending time with.  If they asked you that same question, would you be offended?  I’m guessing probably not.  You’d probably take it that they were just curious.  And, that’s how I read it as well.  

p.s. CONGRATS on the house!!! 🙂 🙂

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

You are looking way too into this. It was just a question that probably did not mean to come off as rude or nosey.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I don’t think you’re being oversensitive…that is rude..but such as life…be angry about it/sad then realize some people are just like that…perhaps you should “defriend” this person so they aren’t disrupting your positve time!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Maybe she was wondering if you bought so she could congratulate you and get you a housewarming gift.  Also, buying your first house is a really big deal and deserves a bigger ‘oh wow, that’s so awesome’ compared to renting, IMO.  I wouldn’t stress over it.

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