(Closed) Am I being overly sensitive

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

why don’t you try telling him not to say that anymore?

Post # 4
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Honey bee

I think its a valid concern in teaching childrent to be open minded or not, as is the case.

Have you told him that his choice of words bother you?

FH used to say he hates certain vegetables. It bothered me for similar reasons the stupid things bothers you. I dont want future potential kids to learn that the word hate is an OK word. Its a strong word with a definate definition. He may not like, he may not prefer and he may change his mind about a vegetable, which he has done. But he doesnt really hate them.  ITs about being open minded to me. It may seem silly, but I asked him to think about the term and reserve it for things he truly does hate (like seeing motorcycle riders without helmets for example). He saw my point and agreed to change the word he uses.

Have a conversation with him about the why’s you dont like that word. Tell him its OK for him not to agree, but instead of saying something stupid (especially if he doesnt know your stance on it he is inadvertantly calling you stupid) to state why he doesnt like the idea.  

“Stupid” is not an explanation or a why. Its a cop out to critical thinking

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