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Am I being pushy? Do you think that a proposal is on the cards?

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    Peachcream    February 6, 2013   USA

    Hello sexy ladies, 

    Hmm how do I not stretch this out to long? Ok well a couple of weeks ago I wrote a post in regards to my boyfriend asking me to write him a letter with all of my hopes dreams goals for the future ( He is in the war in afgan at the moment). We have been living together for about 8 months and we have been seeing eachother for about a year an a half... im 26 he is 28 and he will be back mid this year.

    I was asking people if they think that I should write about my desigre to get married sometime in the near future ( amoungst my other plans) or whether I should wait for his hopes dreams goals letter to get to me first so I could suss out what his expectations were before I pushed the marrige card..

    I ended up writing to him a very general letter which was kind of like , I want to get better at my job, I want to have financial security, and I want to have an amazing partner who loves me as much as I love him. ( you feeling the general?) 

    anyway I received his letter a couple of days ago and it was really lovely - it said stuff like I want my job to take a back seat so we can create more memories together, I want to get a dog, he wants to see me get improve with my studies, and where he sees us living in the future and then he said " If there is anything you should get out of my rambling is that you are in all of my plans" 

    - I thought this letter was awesome and I appreciate that he can communicate this to me, its just that I already knew I was in his future plans- these are subjects that we have discussed before he left - So to be honest with you while it was lovely I was expecting something a little bit more maybe...especially seeing as it was his idea to start all of this.. 

    he mentioned in his letter that he wants to know everything baout me and that I should not hold back with the questions....

    So I replied to his letter very positivley saything that our goals and dreams match up nicely and that I share his desigre to create more memories with eachother.

    In my concluding sentence I wrote "Where do you see marrige and children fitting into the grand scheme of things?"    One sentence in a 4 page letter---- TOO MUCH??

    Any chance you think he might of wanted to hear this from me? 

    Do you think that he might be feeling me out for a proposal?

    Do you think that last sentence of mine will freak him out?

    Thanks ladies... Im very anxious about this ...any feedback would be appreciated..

     

     

     

     
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    Jade33    August 3, 2007  

    Definitely not too much. It's also nice that you wrote it as a question. If you two are talking so extensively about a future together, it is only logical to bring up marriage and children if these are things you want. It is especially logical to discuss children as that's a dealbreaker (one way or another) for most people. It certainly should not freak him out.

    If this is the first time you have discussed marriage, then no, I do not think he's sussing you out for a proposal -- though of course that could be wrong, I don't know either of you! It just seems unlikely that he would be planning to propose if you had never talked about it before. Perhaps this will become a more serious subject when he gets home. In the meantime enjoy your long distance romance, and keep communicating so well with each other.

    Oh and let us know how he answers!

     
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    Peachcream    February 6, 2013   USA

    @Jade33:  Yes you are absolutley right. Thank you I will let you know - im excited and anxious  :) we'll see how it goes. 

     

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