- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Hey Bees, so I have a question. I was talking to my Fiance last night, because we got the call that there is a perfect apartment available for us, and we are going today to put down the holding deposit (AHHH so exciting!!!) Now, the place will be available to move in anytime between June 7 and June 14, which is perfect because Fiance is very budget conscious, and with our wedding June 21, he didn’t want to spend for too much rent prior to us getting married (because we aren’t actually living together until after we say I Do), but that gives us around a week or a week and a half to get all moved in, or at least partially, so when we get back from the honeymoon it isnt crazy stressful with a ton of unpacking to do before the pace is livable. So Fiance will move in a week or two before the wedding, since the apt is closer to his work than his current home, etc.
Okay so last night, while we were talking, he’s all, “I’m so excited to have my younger sister come live there with me the whole time before we get married!”. And I don’t really want her to live there… Like… I feel like this may be dumb, which is why I came here haha but it’s like, when you get a new outfit, or whatever new thing you want to get haha, you don’t want to let someone else to use it before you get to. If that makes sense. Like when I buy a new shirt, typically I want to wear it at least one time myself before I let a friend brrow it. That’s ow I feel with this, only so so much more. I don’t want FI’s first memories of our home to be of the fun times he had with his sister, I want them to be the fun times he ha with me! I don’t want her using our special “marriage space” before we even get to use it together.. Plus, I wanted to move all our dishes and pots and pans over, and.. I kind of want to be the first to use those too… I feel kind of immature about this, but it just really doesnt sit well with me.
part of it also comes from the fact that his sister is very immature and irresponsible, so she won’t take very good care of the things if she WERE to use them.. Like I have never seen her even RINSE off a dish, let alone wash them. And she leaves the stove on, never cleans up after herself… And I just don’t want her lounging around our home all day and all night before I get to be there making memories with my hubby.
Am I being totally stupid? And what might be a good way to approach this? I was thinking of just asking Fiance what he is hoping to accomplish by having her live there with him… Like if they want to have a little “fun time” before I take my place in the home, r whatever.. I think I would be ok if she stayed there ONE night before I move in, but seriously… living there for a week and melting our cooking utensils into our new pans, leaving our dishes dirty, etc… Even if she took good care of things, I don’t want someone else taking care of him in that way! That is MY job. Ugh. I dont know. Help, pease!!