Post # 1
So I’ve been kind of possessive of planning our wedding and want to do everything myself. My FMIL and fiance’s aunt want to help decorate for our barn wedding which is great but I’m nervous at the same time. I want to make this wedding our own and not someone else’s ideas. I have a lot of my own ideas anyway but am I being too selfish for not wanting help?
Post # 2
My MIL and her sister were very much involved with helping decorate for our reception and rehearsal dinner because they are both incredibly crafty. I think the biggest thing to think about is their willingness to offer help doing what YOU want. If they just want to offer their skills and time then I’d absolutely let them help. If they have their own ideas of what the decor should look like that differs greatly from yours then I might be more reluctant. I’d still let them help but I’d definitely want to be around while they were decorating.
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2017 - Clubhouse at Boundary Oaks
Its hard to call you selfish bc I understand wanting to do everything yourself. If all they want is to help then allow them to assist you with bringing your vision to life but if they are trying to come in and dictate how things should be or take over with their own ideas then politely decline.
Post # 4
misskitty90 : If your wedding date in your profile is correct, your wedding is a month away- so exciting! Have you already decided how you want the wedding to look?
Are they asking to contibute ideas or offering to help with the grunt work of actually doing the decorating? If it’s the latter, unless you want everything to be a complete surprise to them, accept all the help you can get. It always takes longer than you think it will.
If they want to be involved in the planning, it never hurts to listen to what they have to say. They might have some great suggestions or have access to items you don’t. If their ideas don’t work for you, you can tell them “Thanks for the suggestions. I will keep them in mind when we make our final decisions.” They will feel involved, and in the end, you can do what you want.
Post # 5
I don’t think you are being selfish at all. Its your wedding !
But, wedding planing, decorations etc. can be very stressful and time consuming. Especially the day of the wedding can be crazy! So extra help can be very handy.
Post # 6
It’s your wedding so it’s perfectly understandable. Perhaps if FMIL and your fiance’s aunt want to help, it would be fine as long as they help decorate the way you want to have your wedding decorated. If they’re the type to insist things must go their way then by all means I’ll understand if you don’t want their help.