(Closed) Am I being selfish? RANT

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@superh2ogirl: Have you talked to your FI about it?

Is your FI invited to the party too?

Can you have a nice birthday dinner and then both go to the party?

Is it a “milestone” birthday for your FI?

 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@superh2ogirl: Can you talk him into a Friday night celebration rather than Sat night?

Why doesn’t he want to go to the Halloween party?

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Why don’t you do both?  Maybe start with a big dinner with his friends, then go to your friend’s party afterward and cap it off with a little birthday cake at home w/presents?

Post # 8
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Honey bee

I dont see this as an either/or celebration.

You could do something during the day and have dinner and then go to the party later in the evening. If that isnt enough you could extend the celebration into Sunday.

How about inviting all his friends over for a football Bday party (assuming they watch) on Sunday. It can kinda be like a super bowl party with all the traditional food, and a bday cake etc. It can be during the day so everyone can still be home at a reasonable hour for work.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

29 isn’t a milestone per se, but it’s certainly a sensitive one…the finality of your 20s.  sounds silly, but i’ve seen some folks take it hard.  like PP’s ask if why he doesn’t want to.  maybe celebrate Friday and give him a pass to not got to the Hween party?

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I would definitely do both. Either celebrate for him Friday or Saturday, and then go to the party Saturday night. I would be pissed if I had to miss the party after knowing you were gonna go all this time

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I don’t see why you couldn’t celebrate his B-day Friday night or Sunday afternoon.  I think that a Sunday afternoon BBQ would be nice, or as a PP mentioned, a football game/b-day party with all of his buddies could be fun.

I understand that he wants to celebrate with his friends, but why not do that on Friday?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

My ex pulled that one me. Of course I was trying to go away for the whole weekend. Free pass to the beach. But it did upset me at the time especailly since I was already so angry/resentful of him as it was.

I say you can do both! Celebrate in private Fri night and Sat day, then go to the party Sat night.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree with Storm0075 You should celebrate with him on Friday night and then attend the party on Saturday.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Id do both. even if its a pit stop at the party. celebrate friday AND Saturday day and again late Sat night. Start the nigh at your friends then end it with him and his. We have to do it ALL the time. Busy social calendars.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

friday celebration sounds like the best answer, but if he’s deadset on having it on saturday, you could always do a special birthday afterparty.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

My FI bday is on the 20nth too. yey we have twins  ! loll… Dont you just love Libras !!! 

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