- Miss Moxy
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I had this conversation with my husband, (YAY, I’m married!!!) And he thinks his family is just bad at communicating. I get the feeling it’s only when I’m in the picture….but, you tell me?
I feel like my in-laws are excluding me from family events, information and outings. They preach on and on about family togetherness but don’t seem to include me or my husband in things. I guess this wouldn’t bother me so much if I didn’t move closer to them, alienating my birth family in the process (I’m too far from them, and I’ve never been this far for such a long period of time, especially my ill father.). There were 2 reasons for moving: 1. My husband’s job is here and 2. To have a better quality family life with my inlaws.
I work with my MIL, as an assistant to her, and I have to hear about family things (events, life changes) from coworkers. I’m the last coworker to know too. I literally sit 6 feet away from this woman! It makes me feel unwanted or underserving…..and the looks I get from coworkers, mostly of disbelief, make me feel like quiting my job. (I hate this job anyway, I’m just doing it as a favor to my MIL and for the lack of employement in my area)
Recently, I went to see my BIL’s2 (I have 2 BILs so I’ll refer to them as 1 and 2) band play at a pub to show support. When I got there, I was very disappointed at what I saw. My MIL, FIL, one of my SILs, BIL’s2 girlfriend, BIL’s1 new fiance and fiance’s friend all sitting at a booth, finishing dinner. (BIL1 was not there). The dinner I was never told about, even though they all knew I was going to the show. My husband had a tiny WTH moment with me as we walked towards them.
Throughout the night the ladies at the table ignored me, especially BIL1’s new fiance. I sat there just listening to the music at a table of talking heads but none of the conversation drifted my way. I tried to make conversations and I get this, “Oh, you’re here..” kind of look. They talked in an intentionally vague way about the engagement party and when I asked when it was, they weren’t sure…..later I found out, from the SIL that it’s this upcoming saturday and they planned it weeks ago. Then my BIL2’s GF grabbed all the girls to go dancing with her by name! I added myself to thier mix but was quickly dubbed at the photo/video girl.
After 2 hours, MIL, FIL, BIL1’s fiance and friend left. BIL2’s gf and my SIL sat at the table with me and started talking about their plans to go upstate to see my other SIL for a fun visit. They talked about all the fun stuff they were going to do. I wasn’t invited, neither was my husband.
My inlaws seem to be more enthrawed with the supermodel like girlfriend and fiance who never comes by, than their newly aquired DIL. Seriously, I wouldn’t feel this bad if I didnt leave my family, my friends and my career. I feel isolated.
Am I just being sensitive?