(Closed) Am I being silly?

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Silly or Understandably hurt ?
    You are being silly. Let it go. : (91 votes)
    63 %
    I would be hurt too. : (54 votes)
    37 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1082 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I think it was just a slip of the tongue, I would let it go.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7879 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @lifesaride:  Definitely just guy talk. Let it go.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2975 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Sometimes I wonder if guys think before they talk. I’ve heard FH say some pretty rude things, and then when I’ve hit him over the head about it (even in front of his friends, yeah IDGAF) he would just look at me with a blank stare. Sigh. 

    Don’t stress too much about it. 🙂 

    Post # 7
    Member
    1254 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I understand, it’s my FI’s second wedding too.  I’d be a bit non-plussed if he referred to it as that though in such a scenario. He wouldn’t have meant anything by it though.  

    Post # 8
    Hostess
    7568 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I wouldn’t worry about it. It sounds like you’ve already told him that it hurt your feelings and he apologized. Time to move on. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it was great that you mentioned that it hurt you, and that he apologized. Now that he knows how you feel and he can make an effort to be more respectful in addressing your wedding, it is time to let go!!! 🙂

    Post # 10
    Member
    738 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @lifesaride:  I don’t think that someone could understand how much this would hurt you if their FI hasn’t been married before. Mine has, and this would hurt me. Alot actually. Whether it was a slip of the tounge or whatever, it would sting!

    Post # 13
    Member
    2872 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’d totally be hurt too.  I’m glad you told him you were, and that he apologized.  At this point, try to let it go (although I know it might take some time) – its not a big enough deal to hold onto a grudge. 

    Post # 14
    Member
    8044 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I don’t think he meant anything by it. Maybe his friend was part of his first wedding so he said “second wedding” because he felt self conscious about making him go to another one or something, dunno? Guys can be funny about things… especially weddings. I don’t think it reflects badly on you at all.

    Post # 16
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Weetzie:  Yep, my FI was also married before and this would really sting. I would let it go, but that doesn’t mean hearing it wouldn’t hurt.

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