Post # 1
Alright, I’ve been working on our STD and getting addresses together for some time now. We have nearly 300 people on our list, so I knew it would take a long time. I’ve been asking Future Mother-In-Law for her side of the addresses for MONTHS and she’s only given me a few. I’ve been able to find some online, but I’m still missing addresses, correct spelling of names, and other issues that are all on her side. I’m sending out the STD in 2-3 weeks and I’ve been emailing, calling, texting and asking Fiance to talk to her and I still haven’t even gotten a “I’ll work on getting that info for you!” from her. So I’ve decided that if I don’t have the addresses from her by the time I send them out, those people (some of whom I know are important to her) will not get a STD. Also, if I don’t have it by the time invites go out, they won’t get those either. I’m sick of begging her to get these addresses, so if she’s not going to cooperate, fine, her people won’t get anything. Am I being too harsh?
Post # 3
Nope. The same thing happened to me. Tell her the date by which the Save-The-Date Cards will go out and say you hope that she’ll be able to give you the information by then. If you’ve given her a lot of time to get the info to you, the ball is in her court.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t even worry about it anymore. It’s not worth stressing yourself over! I echo redheadem and just let her know what date you are sending them. Stick to that day and only send them out to the addresses you have.
Post # 5
My mom did the same thing. We are inviting over 300 guests. At first she said that her friends didn’t really need save the dates, but once she saw them she wanted to send them to all of her friends. Some of them got them a little late, but at least I was able to get their addresses. I just ordered extras.
Post # 6
Exactly what PPs said. She either gives you the info and they get Save-The-Date Cards, or she doesn’t and they don’t. It’s that simple.
Post # 7
honestly, I would consider asking your Fiance… are they important to him…. or to her? if they are important to him I would find another way of getting the address. I even went to the point of calling his uncle for a phone number for someone to get an address… I knew it was someone important to him and I know everyone on my side is getting them and I dont want to be unfair to him.