(Closed) Am I being too competitive?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

im the same way!!! as long as you keep it to yourself, and dont say anything to the people you are fine imo.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I secretly compare other weddings I attend to my own. It’s horrible but I totally do. And so does DH. And then we talk about it on the car ride home. Not like in a “Ha ha we’re so great” way but more like “I wish we had thought of ___” or “I liked our ____ more.” Ya, slightly evil but whatever. We’re all human right?! So long as you keep it to yourself you’re a-okay I think! LOL!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The “best” is subjective and you are certainly entitled to do your wedding as you please. You may not be being competitive as much as you are being critical. I am also (hyper) critical and scrutinize peoples choices (in my own head, occasionally to FI or my sister)

You should think your wedding is “the best”, it’s your wedding. It represents you and your FI and all things that you two love and want in your wedding. 

How boring would it be if everyone’s wedding invites, dresses, food etc. were the exact same?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it until you let it obstruct your view of what’s important on your wedding day, which it doesn’t seem like you’re doing!! It’s hard NOT to compare. 🙂

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I do it too 🙂 We have two other weddings on the same side of FI’s family yet this summer (all engaged waaay after FI and I). I critique one of them all the time. Mostly cause she’s dumb, but her STD, she stretched pics horizontally to fit better. Wasn’t exactly flattering. The other cousin is marrying an Indian girl and their wedding seems like it will be pretty cool. The invites were SUPER fancy. I’d put a pic, but since it’s not mine I won’t. Like little hand-glued rhinestones on the envelope fancy.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think that a little healthy competition is good as long as your not making snarky comments and insulting family members lol (which Im sure your not!!) I am the same way, I think everyone want to have the best wedding!! Its just the way it is.

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