Post # 1
My family, at the moment, is in wedding overload. My aunt got married in December, my cousin is getting married in a month, FI’s best man is getting marred in December, and I’m getting married in March.
So, is it bad for me to want to have the best. I basically critique everyones wedding invitations and save the dates and dresses and centerpieces and every other tidbit of wedding information that they are foolish enough to let me see. I feel like I HAVE to have mine be the best. Am I being to competitive? Or is this normal?
Post # 3
im the same way!!! as long as you keep it to yourself, and dont say anything to the people you are fine imo.
Post # 4
I secretly compare other weddings I attend to my own. It’s horrible but I totally do. And so does DH. And then we talk about it on the car ride home. Not like in a “Ha ha we’re so great” way but more like “I wish we had thought of ___” or “I liked our ____ more.” Ya, slightly evil but whatever. We’re all human right?! So long as you keep it to yourself you’re a-okay I think! LOL!
Post # 5
Haha, Yeah, I talk about it with FI, but other than that, while they’re showing me the item in question I’m like “hm, that’s nice” and then compare mine to theirs and decide if I need to change it or if I think my idea is better, and then act accordingly.
Post # 6
@bakerella: Thanks! I feel a lot better now! haha
Post # 7
The “best” is subjective and you are certainly entitled to do your wedding as you please. You may not be being competitive as much as you are being critical. I am also (hyper) critical and scrutinize peoples choices (in my own head, occasionally to FI or my sister)
You should think your wedding is “the best”, it’s your wedding. It represents you and your FI and all things that you two love and want in your wedding.
How boring would it be if everyone’s wedding invites, dresses, food etc. were the exact same?
Post # 8
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it until you let it obstruct your view of what’s important on your wedding day, which it doesn’t seem like you’re doing!! It’s hard NOT to compare. 🙂
Post # 9
I do it too 🙂 We have two other weddings on the same side of FI’s family yet this summer (all engaged waaay after FI and I). I critique one of them all the time. Mostly cause she’s dumb, but her STD, she stretched pics horizontally to fit better. Wasn’t exactly flattering. The other cousin is marrying an Indian girl and their wedding seems like it will be pretty cool. The invites were SUPER fancy. I’d put a pic, but since it’s not mine I won’t. Like little hand-glued rhinestones on the envelope fancy.
Post # 10
@satsumaflower: Thank you, I’m more of looking at their, let’s say invitation, and then looking at mine and saying, “well I like ours better, it’s nice for them I suppose, just not for me”
@brideatbeach: My mom is the one that’s being obstructed, she saw my cousins wedding dress and “you need to put on another skirt under your dress” *sigh* parents.
@hisgoosiegirl:Great! And I’ve always wanted to go to an indian Wedding. They just look like so much fun!
Thanks guys, you’ve really made me feel a lot better!
Post # 11
I think that a little healthy competition is good as long as your not making snarky comments and insulting family members lol (which Im sure your not!!) I am the same way, I think everyone want to have the best wedding!! Its just the way it is.