Am I being too controlling?

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
6448 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Have you asked her to see it? Maybe you’ll end up really like it. I personally wouldn’t be able to tell my mom to return something that she bought for my child, I would feel too guilty.

Post # 4
6631 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Let grandma give it to her since she already bought the kitchen set.  It is more of a hassle to return it and for you go buy one. And honestly a 1 year old won’t have to much interest in it unless the 1 year old is closer to 2 years old.  

Post # 5
5432 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

I definitely think you should accept the gift your mom bought. Have you seen it? Maybe you’ll end up liking it. You could always buy her some fake food for the kitchen or maybe a pretend store to go with the kitchen (something like this?). I don’t think I could ever tell my mom to return a gift, it would really hurt her feelings.


Post # 6
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

I’ll be honest – we had a play kitchen, and now that my kid is a teen I can no longer remember what it even looked like. I could not pick it out of a lineup. It won’t matter in the long run, it will make your mom really happy to give your daughter something cool, and you can spend the $$ you would have spent on the kitchen on some other gifts. Check out the Melissa and Doug food sets if you haven’t already – they’re very cool!

Post # 7
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I couldn’t imagine telling my mom to return something like that just so I could buy another one. Sorry OP, but ouch!

Post # 8
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

WOW you must be rich!! b/c I’d be so grateful for a pricey gift like that, no complaining whatsoever

Post # 9
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yes, you sound controlling. She’s your daughter’s grandmother as well — Let her buy her those gifts and be gracious about it. I couldn’t look my mother in the eye and tell her this. Sure, you like the one you picked out, but this one has already been purchased. You need to pick your battles and let this one go.

Post # 10
607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

Let your Mom buy it and keep it at her house so when your daughter visits, she can play with it.

Buy your daughter the one you want for your house.


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