Am I being too cynical

posted 3 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@DrMrsCol:  Who knows? Just elope, no big deal 🙂 

Post # 4
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church

@DrMrsCol:  I say just do what you want!

Post # 5
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@DrMrsCol:  I def say just do what you want…But I have a follow up question/comment/concern:

Maybe part of this is tainted by my fiance’s son having gotten engaged this weekend because his future in-laws started planning a “wedding”, and so he felt obiligated to have an engagement ring. But somehow I’m feeling sorry for them in more ways than one..

I mean this in the best way-but Yikes!

So is this not your FI’s first marriage but it’s yours?  Is it a problem that FI’s son wants all the bells and whistles for himself?  That’s a personal choice….is this statement because maybe he is stealing your thunder a bit?

Post # 6
53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@DrMrsCol:  As long as you feel secure and loved in your relationship, I don’t think a wedding means anything.  I also used to want a traditional wedding and all that.  But honestly, I have grown quite tired of weddings, too (including my own).  It’s not that I’m not happy for all my friends–I just hate how people turn into crazy, materialistic consumers just because a wedding is happening.  I also think about my gay friends or friends who are not married.  It seems so weird to get so preoccupied with one day.  I definitely know that a wedding (no matter how lavish) does not translate into happy marriages.

Post # 7
2878 posts
Sugar bee

@DrMrsCol:  Your wedding should be about you and your FI, and want YOU want this day to be like. Forget about etiquette and being all about the guests (sorry, but I never believed in that), if you don’t want all that the market, Pinterest and vendors tell you you NEED in order to have the ”perfect” wedding, throw that away, and do what you really want. No amount of money or wedding extravaganza will ”buy” a happy and solid marriage. In the end, it’s all that matters.

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