Am I being too harsh??

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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42460 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sometimes people are going through something that is just more than they can handle or share. She could also have been either off her meds, or deteriorating while on meds that needed adjusting.

I would just let it go and be happy that she is back to normal.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You never know what someone else is going through.   I’m sure she doesn’t think it’s okay and i doubt the others think it’s “okay.”  Sometimes you cut people slack when they are going through a tough time.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can’t help but wondering if someone on the team did something mean to her, and for some reason she feels like it was a planned attack by everyone on the team, and maybe she thinks when people are trying to comfort her that they are mocking her. (For all you know, there *could* be a contingent of girls on the team who have harrassed her?) The cruelty of girls/women are capable no longer surprises me. And of course she could just be very “unbalanced” and completely misinterpreting everything. I wouldnt worry about it, just be nice to her.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Because, shit happens. Clearly she was going thru something and didn’t want to share and was probably embrassed. I’ve had personality shifts when my life where I wasn’t my normal pleasant self. There’s a big differance from somoene constantly doing this vs. the behavior being different from their norm. Cut her some slack.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@sn2bmrsmntgmry:  One time incident, let it slide, because honestly, you just never know what is going on with someone and pressure, stress and life in general can make a person insane on a lot of levels.  If it turns into a theme with her, yeah, might warrant a sit down where she finally clues everyone in or decides that the team is just not something that works right now.

Post # 10
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526 posts
Busy bee

@sn2bmrsmntgmry:  I completely understand where you are coming from.  I find it very VERY difficult to let things like that go (I mean, at least call it out!), and am constantly bewildered by others who can/do.  Unfortunately this character trait also means that I don’t have as many friends as I would like because I can’t let things go, I consider behavior like that a character issue and usually try not to be around that person anymore. se la vie.

 

Post # 11
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7279 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@sn2bmrsmntgmry:  I get it, cause there is this crazy chick at work that is never questioned about her bad behavior. It frustrates the shit out of me. But hers is a constant stream of cray, cray. Your teammate had a lapse. It happens to the best of us. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@sn2bmrsmntgmry:  I get that you’re upset and agree that this isn’t how adults should comport themselves, but sometimes you have to determine if saying something is going to do more harm then good?  What is the best possible outcome of confronting her, however friendly and the worst?  If those terms are acceptable to you on both ends of the spectrum, help yourself, but do so without the endorsement of your teammates, you don’t want her to feel ganged up on.

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