(Closed) Am I being too mean?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Honestly, that was pretty dick.  Really rude.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

really, I would just let it be. THis is your sister’s weight issue not yours, and from someone who has struggled with my weight (those constant 10-15 lbs) I KNOW when someone says that to me it makes it worse. My ass gets glued to the couch and I drink beer…..

If you are supportive when she DOES do these things…..it may help…OR you could ask her to go for walks with you or go to the gym with you…..

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

yeah that’s ridiculous.  I could never imagine treating anyone that way, let alone my sister.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Yeah, that’s pretty Bridezilla-esque right there.

I would apologize and say that you are stressed, but you are sorry for hurting her feelings if you did.

On another note, that does suck that the BM dresses aren’t working out at optimal conditions.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah, in fact I find that be disgusting behavior. Trust me she probably beats herself up about it enough with out you adding to the chorus. If you said anything, it should have been to gently caution her againist getting the dress too small given that it already ripped on someone else.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@gonatgo:  really?  please take the bee’s (and MY) advice….I actually am trying NOT to be snarky towards you since this is an issue that REALLY hits home wiht me….

The fact that your sister gained weight is not the issue here…it’s your attitude towards her about it…it’s a dress….

I can’t imagine treating my BM’s like this (and my sister has weight issues….)

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

That’s awful it’s just a dress. 

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

As someone who has always had to battle with my own weight, I think it’s very likely that your sister is well aware of the situation and will do what she thinks is best to address it. I don’t think it is in any way helpful — and, in fact, it may be very hurtful or even counter productive — for someone else to attempt to tell her what she should and should not be doing to fit better in her dress. I think you should apologize to her and tell her the truth, that you’re just really stressed out about wedding details, including the fit of some of the dresses for your destination wedding, given what happended with the other bridesmaid’s gown.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow.  

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Honestly Davids should have measured her differently or really altered the dress to be bigger.

Loosing 2-3 pounds wont change anything, and some people  loose weight in every area but what may be needed or may add muscle, and so on.

As far as being mean, yeah, your sister most likely is already humilated and may not be thinking the way you do about weddings, dresses and priorties.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

She said she was going to lose 2-3 pounds. I don’t know why you felt the need to say anything.

I guess I could never imagine saying anything like that to my sister since we always support each other in healthy body image and food/exercise habits.

She’s a grown woman. She can make her own decisions about eating junk food, drinking alcohol and going to the gym. I mean really, she already admitted that she needs to lose 2-3 lbs to fit into the dress. So why say something? Plus we aren’t talking about 20 pounds. 2-3 pounds is really not that hard to lose in a matter of 6 weeks. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If I were your sister, I would gain 10 extra lbs just to tick you off.

Sorry, but you were way out of line. It’s a dress. Seriously. Just. A. Dress.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Yeah it was pretty crappy and if you are going to have a bridal party then you should expect for things like that to come up. I will NEVER understand why people have bridal parties, it’s the weirdest concept to me. Plus, she’s an adult, it’s her problem to fix, not yours.

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