(Closed) Am I being too picky?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Maybe instead of saying you can pick what you want but you have to follow these rules, pick a designer/fabric/color yourself and pick a few dresses for them to choose from.  Otherwise, depending on how many bridesmaids you have, they may NEVER come to agreement on dresses.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think you’ve really really narrowed the field down to the point that you are better off picking a few dresses and then letting them choose. You’ve basically told them they can pick the color/fabric of the dress from whatever designer, but that they’re stuck with a halter, strapped dress, or capsleeve a-line or mermaid dress.

Pick what you like, then let them pick from your pre-approved choices. Much much easier. =]

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree, while I don’t think you are being too picky (you are actually trying to be nice and give them options) I do think it will blow up in your face. Just pick a few dresses and let them choose or pick one affordable one and have them all get the same.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

how about picking out a line that has multiple tops / bottoms / dresses that can be mixed /matched and suggesting they pick from that line? given your specifics it’ll make things easier all around.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I definitely agree with selecting a group of dresses you like an dletting them choice their favorite. That way it’s a win win situation for everyone 🙂

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Yeah, you might want to pick out a couple of dresses and let them choose. Or, you can at least email them a couple of links to the types of dresses you had in mind.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Agree with above posters.  That’s what I’m doing.  I’m giving my girls choices, but I would like them all in similar fabrics, the same color, etc.  I’m sending them like 6-8 dresses to pick from (David’s Bridal) and then just having them run it by me and MOH before they make a final choice.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I picked out 12 dresses and let my 4 BM’s pick from there, they just had to be in navy. They each have a different dress that made them happy/fit with their body types. It might be easier to do something like that, like a few other bees said, to make you and your BM’s happy!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

also – make sure you order them all together or you might risk slight variations in color due to dye lots!

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ditto, definitely pick out beforehand. Bill Levkoff, David’s bridal, etc, all have a huge variety. Even JCrew! Much more affordable

PS not sure I buy into that dye lot thing. I bought bolts of fabric from all over the state and all the dresses looked the same. I only say this b/c what a boutique could charge $300 for, sometimes you can find for less expensive if you are like me and don’t need alterations. I bought a bridesmaid dress in store that I could have bought online that retailed for half price. I literally just zip it up and wear it. FYI

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Not too picky at all. But nearly impossible for the bridesmaids to navigate without help. Pick as many dresses as you can find with the criteria you have that come in the same color/fabric by the same designer, and let them choose one. They may or may not end up in the same dress. In fact, I did this, expecting some of the girls to pick one and some to pick the other, and they all picked the same one (except my MOH, which I guess works out fine anyway! 🙂

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with the above!

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