(Closed) Am i being unfair making my girls wear same shoes?

posted 7 years ago in Shoes
Post # 4
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3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Not everyone can wear heels.  She might have a legitimate concern.

Are the dresses long or short?  If they are long, you really won’t see her shoes in any pictures.

Post # 5
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1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

That sounds cheap to me! But you don’t really want to generate bad blood over shoes, especially with your sister. It could make the day-of less happy if she’s feeling annoyed. Why don’t you get all your bridesmaids together and see if you can all agree on a pair of shoes.

Post # 6
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Eh, I wouldn’t be a fan of someone asking me to wear a certain shoe, especially for $60+tax :/ If it was closer to $20-$30 I would probably suck it up and buy the shoe you wanted, but $60 is asking a lot if the girls wouldn’t wear it again (and it sounds like you are picking a pretty unique shoe that maybe wouldn’t be super re-wearable).

I love heels but would much rather be given a certain color and I could purchase my own shoe at my own price-point. Also, if your sister doesn’t like/doesn’t wear heels often she will probably be miserable walking in heels that day. You should also remember that every girl has a different foot and what feels comfortable to one could put another in a lot of pain.

Just my two cents!

ETA: I don’t think $60 is a lot for shoes as I regularly spend $100+ on my heels, however I do think it is a bit much for a shoe that wouldn’t be worn again/I don’t like.

Post # 7
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

OMG are they the floral high heels??? I was begging my BFF to wear those lol…sadly, she hates the shoes!! But i thought they were so so so cute!!!!! 

Thats not asking too much, at least IMO

Post # 8
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1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would hate havig someone dictate my shoes to me. First of all, I’m really picky about what kind of heels I can wear because I have a super high instep. Secondly, I have like 200 pairs of shoes, so I would probably already have something in the color the bride wanted, and I would resent having to buy a pair that I would never wear again.

 

So yes, I think you’re being unfair. Let them pick their own shoes.

Post # 10
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3363 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Oh, that might change things then.  Does she normally wear heels?  Meaning, can she walk in heels?

I would maybe look for a cheaper pair.

Post # 11
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2214 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m not a fan of someone telling me what shoes to wear.  I have very high arches, so cute shoes aren’t always the most comfortable for me.  I don’t think $59 is a lot for shoes, but honestly, no one looks at shoes in pictures. I don’t know if it’s worth your time or energy to fight over.

Post # 12
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722 posts
Busy bee

I’ve been a bridesmaid several times and always chosen my own shoes. Shoes are very individual and many people do not feel comfortable in certain styles.

Post # 14
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722 posts
Busy bee

Why don’t you have everyone wear silver shoes of their choosing?

Post # 16
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Would you object to using another accent color? I could totally see bright yellow shoes being awesome with a blue dress!

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