Post # 1
Ok so here’s the issue I’m not quiet sure if any other fellow bees are going thru this but my future Mother-In-Law hates me:( .I’ve been nothing but nice to her n still not enough. While being pregnant with my son she would insult me by saying tht my fiance chose responsibility over heart meaning he dnt love me ..little remarks like that everytime she would see me.she would say tht my fiance loves his ex still n how wonderful they were .that the family were shocked that he stayed with me!! Remembering is already upsetting me more ..I’ve been with him since I was 13 so its not like she doesn’t know me..now that were making it official she seems to insult me more..even in front of my own family! She’s a grown lady but acts like a catty teenager..I’ve avoided her n rubbed off the insults but she’s getting out of control..I forgot to mention that fiance is a recovered alcoholic and many times when we go out she’ll offer him drinks saying its good for him!! How is that good for him??!! She’s called my.phone many times telling me he’s been drinking to take care of him but when he comes home he’s perfectly fine no drinking..she knows me and my fiance will argue about the drinking and she does it to cause fights.I don’t know what to do with her . My fiance had realized how she was and told me we wouldnt have to see her until she learns to respect me and everything was ok now his brother started telling him.stuff and last night fiance got mad at me and said its my fault he can’t see his mom!! I got very hurt because I’ve put up with a lot of crap from his mom..am I being unfair.to not want to see her?? The stuff she has told me are far to rude to post here example in front of my family she asked how her son manages to stay with someone with such a huge ass like mine if I bought my thighs at the 99 cnts store!!! My family was shocked @ her comment.It’s gotten so bad that my fiance uncle told him that she wants to split us up so my fiance could take care of her!! I don’t know what to do fellow bees any advice???
Post # 3
You’ve been with him since you were 13? How long have you been together? I don’t know what to tell you except that you should limit the amount of time you spend with her. Also, how far away do you live from her? You and your Fiance should communicate more so he should know how much you really are rattled by his mother and he should agree with you on that regard. As for her comments, yikes. I don’t know what to say.
Post # 4
He needs to do a few things. First of all, he needs to recognize that comments such as those from your Mother-In-Law are completely inappropriate. Second, he needs to be willing to make the decision as to the role she’s going to play in your lives and stick with it (instead of later blaming you).
It might be useful to bring a third party into this – a counselor (best case) or nonbiased family friend, for example.
Post # 5
I’ve been with him for 10 years and she’s always been like that towards me as for how far she lives only 30 min away ..she moves constantly but always seems to find a way to poke in.
Post # 6
First, this woman is either ill or evil.
Second, you came to the right place. Tons of bees of Future Mother-In-Law problems.
Third, I stopped seeing mine and so has my husband (stopped seeing his mother) because of far far less than what you are describing.
NEITHER of you should see this woman. If you are pregnant, you do not need the stress.
This is insane!
Post # 7
I agree: Stay away from her. If you have to see her be polite and civil but do not engage on any level. And politely excuse yourself from any gathering at her house or anywhere else she might be.
The thing that concerns me most is that you said she is pushing alcohol on your Fiance who is in recovery. It’s even more important that he remove himself from her presence. Something is definitely wrong with her. But don’t say that to him, it will stress him out even more plus he’s probably aware of that.
He does need a professional therapist help him figure how to handle being around her. Or to be able to make the decision that he is better off not having any relationship at all. This is really a difficult situation but protect your relationship and take care of yourselves, especially since you are having a child soon.
Post # 8
OMG! I am so sorry. All I can tell you is that your Fiance needs to recongnize her behavior as inapropriate. he needs to realize what she is and what she is doing to your relationship. He needs to make the decision on whether or not he wants to continue seeing his mother. If he choses to see her, let him see her, but you don’t have to go with him. I would stay far away from that woman as much as possible. There is something wrong with her mentally.
Post # 9
Thnk u bees so much for ur advice I’m definitely having a more serious talk with my Fiance I’m not preggo rite now my son is turning 4 tomorrow but she was still the same during my pregnancy.I thnk mentally there is smthing wrong with her she has suffered many addictions and is a total mess. What upsets me the most is that she tries and pulls my Fiance back instead of supporting him to recovery. I’m taking in all ur advice it means the world to me that I can talk to you guys about it.
Post # 10
How does he have an ex she loves if the two of you have been together since you were 13?
Post # 11
he was 17 whn we started going out n had a previous gf before me that his mom can’t seem to forget:/
Post # 12
@NanaluvzGeo: He’s 27 and his mom is stuck on someone he dated at like 16? Wow, does she ever need to get over that one!