Am I being unreasonable?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Uhhhhh what? Your Mom is crazy town- those are two separate events. 

Post # 4
2878 posts
Sugar bee

@CanadianBride456:  I believe your mom meant well, thinking ”well, we’re already in the church, the family is already there = perfect timing”. But I agree with you. It’s not the place or time to hold that event, especially since there are people there at your rehearsal who have nothing to do with your nephew’s baptism. 

Post # 5
2501 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@CanadianBride456:  Stand your ground. I would also talk to your SIL and maybe have her help bring your MIL back to reality. Your SIL may not like the idea of sharing events either!

Post # 6
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@CanadianBride456:  I say you stand your ground. I understand wanting to get things done but those are 2 seperate events that need seperate times. By doing them both you are compromising each event. They should each be special and each have their own day. I wouldn’t want to have my baby baptized at someone’s rehearsal either. Is this just your mom’s idea or your brother and SIL’s?  

Post # 7
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

That’s strange.  You should have separate events.  Did your mom talk to your brother about this??  I would think that he and his wife would want it to be separate too.

Post # 8
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Here’s what I would do…have the Baptism a hour or two earlier than the Rehearsal. Split costs with your Brother and SIL for the rehearsal dinner because at that point you all are really celebrating both events. 

I would not want to sit in on a stranger’s baby’s  Baptism. I would, but I wouldn’t be happy about it.

Post # 9
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Why don’t they do in the Sunday after the wedding like normal? People should still be in town. 

Post # 10
1362 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

You’re not being unreasonable at all.  If I was a bridesmaid and was asked to go to a rehearsal…but sit through a baptism first.., I would feel really uncomfortable/annoyed with that.

Post # 11
157 posts
Blushing bee

@CanadianBride456:  You are not being unreasonnable, it just doesn’t belong to a wedding rehearsal…They are 2 separate events and there is no reason to mix them up.

Post # 12
6980 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

These should be separate events IMO. I would not want anyone but my bridal party seeing our “practice” run…

Post # 13
1802 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think you are being unreasonable. In fact, I think it’s a little bit strange for a baptism to be held during someone else’s rehearsal dinner. Who is paying for the dinner? If you are I’d be especially put out because they are essentially trying to get a free baptism! I would just tell her that you are not comfortable holding his baptism during your dinner, and you have asked a few close friends who will be there, and they also think it’s kind of strange. Let the festivities for your wedding be focused on your wedding, and let the baby have his own shining moment. What does your brother think about the idea?

Post # 14
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I would be annoyed myself. A baptism shouldn’t be something you just squeeze into another event. Tell her it will be more special as a seperate event. I think she will understand.

Post # 15
2800 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

The compromise I can see is having the Baptism before the rehersal where just your family shows up at the church early, and then the wedding party arives an hour later.  That way they don’t have to sit through the baptisim. 

I would also talk to your SIL and Brother.  I wonder if they are on board with this “double duty” baptisim/rehersal.  I would doubt it. 

Post # 16
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I would say, absolutely not. 

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