Am I Being Unreasonable? Advice Please!

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Newbee

Im sorry I’m new to this. What is SO?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Have you talked to your brother directly about this? That’s where I would start. Maybe he’s too caught up to realize how things have changed or how you feel.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 

ClassicCorvette:  Did you call your bother to ask if it is okay to bring your SO? And explain why you are wanting them to be there?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I don’t get why you can’t ask your brother if you can bring him? ETA If your brother used to bring his then gf everywhere, I can’t imagine he’d have any justification for excluding your boyfriend. I’d probably just TELL my brother that I am bringing him if I were you.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  MeiFrancis.
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Too much trouble? What does he have planned for that day? That sounds weird and I would ask him point blank if he/they don’t want to meet him? And explain how that makes you feel.

Post # 12
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Newbee

 

ClassicCorvette:  For me family is everything n I feel its important for them to know my SO 8). Have you voiced your feelings to your brother? Let him know how important it is to you that he meet and spend some time with his soon to in law.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would just tell him that it’s about time that they met your SO and he is coming.

I fail to see why you would need permission to bring your SO shopping. It’s not like they are having a dinner party with a limited number of chairs, or hosting the family at an expensive restaurant.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

That’s ridiculous! I know every family is different but in mine it’s always just been assumed that a partner is welcomed as part of the family until you break up. Not a stranger until you get engaged/married.  It’s always made it sad when people do break up as we’ve got to know the partners etc but it also means that we all know the ones that have lasted really well. Sorry… not advice at all but more a I’m not surprised you’re upset by your SO not being included! 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

 

ClassicCorvette:  Tell them that what ever they have planned if it costs additional money for your SO to be there then you will foot that additional cost because it means alot to you that they are their and that they (your family) are supportive of the two of you.

Do they or have they made any objections of your relationship with your SO prior to this? If not, then it might be time to stand ground and say that the two of you are working on building a life together and that is the direction that the two of you are going and if your family is not supportive of that, then I would not be around my family.

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