Am I being unreasonable Here??

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Kinda…. how often is this guy going to be around? Haven’t you ever couch surfed? It’s just a week and it could be fun. I would totally, and we live in a teeny beach house. I think you need to be a little more generous.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d use it as a chance to get to know one of his friends. He can sleep on the couch, and it’s only for 10 days.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

2 or 3 days I could probably manage…a week or more, no thanks.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

HuysuzAyi33:  It depends what the guy is like, and what your schedule is like. I’ve been in the exact same situation (DH’s friend who I’d never met stayed with us about a week, 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment). Our apartment had quite a large lounge and the friend slept on the floor in there. I was working so I only really saw him in the evenings and weekends which wasn’t too bad. 

But at other times in life when I’ve been a SAHM or studying – not a chance, I need my space.

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s what friends are for.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

10 days with a guy I don’t know, invading my personal space? Definite NO!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I dont think thats unreasonable.  Thats a while for someone you dont know.  I`m someone who likes my privacy.  How about having him stay a night or two with you and in the rented room for some of the other nights?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would hate this. I’m the type of person who would give a firm no if a friend asked for a temporary place to stay. It would have to be an emergency and have a clear and established end for me to say yes – and that would have to be a close friend.

However, if your husband is insisting, I think you ought to pick your battles with this one and just be a gracious host. It’ll work out better for you and your marriage.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Why can’t the friend rent out the other room and pay the $90 himself? Surely it’s cheaper than a hotel? Just say you don’t have the space (which you don’t really)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yeah, I’m generally a social person, but I’d have issues with most anyone crashing on my couch for 10 days. I’d probably put up with it though if it were a rare thing, especially if a friend were down and out. Maybe I’m getting old 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yeah, you’re being unreasonable. I trust that my husband has good choice in friends. If we have to give up the comforts of our home for a week/10 days to help his friend, then we would. I should hope he’d do the same for one of my friends.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

10 days could feel like eternity if you were lacking the privacy and personal space you’ve come to expect in your own home.

I’d put a 3-4 day cap on it. That is a reasonable length of time to accommodate a friend. I can’t imagine the guy really wants to mooch and sleep on a couch for more than a couple of days anyhow.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

I’m with you; I wouldn’t be comfortable with someone I don’t know staying in my house and sharing a bathroom.   I agree with LoveBugBee- maybe a 3-4 day cap??

Post # 15
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Helper bee

HuysuzAyi33: Depends on how good of a friend he is to DH. I really enjoy hanging out with DH and his buddies, and love when they come visit. 

If it was some random guy that I’d never heard of, I’d probably be a little more hesitant and ask a lot of questions, maybe even convey my uncertainty. If DH was adamant, I’d ultimately suck it up because I know that I need to respect his judgement, though. 

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