Post # 1
I am looking for some unbiased honest opinions.
DH and I live in a one bedroom condo, one bathroom, relatively small. One of DH’s male friends is coming to our city in july as he is thinking about moving his family to canada, so hell basically be doing some research on conditions here and he will be visiting with DH but his main reason for coming is to do research about living conditions here. The problem is my DH wants him to stay with us for the week or 10 days that hell be here. I have never met this guy, he is not family and I am not comfortable with him staying in our small one bedroom condo. I suggested we rent a guest room in our condo building which will cost $90 a night but DH doesn’t want to pay. Am I being unreasonable??
Post # 2
Kinda…. how often is this guy going to be around? Haven’t you ever couch surfed? It’s just a week and it could be fun. I would totally, and we live in a teeny beach house. I think you need to be a little more generous.
Post # 3
I’d use it as a chance to get to know one of his friends. He can sleep on the couch, and it’s only for 10 days.
Post # 4
2 or 3 days I could probably manage…a week or more, no thanks.
Post # 5
HuysuzAyi33: It depends what the guy is like, and what your schedule is like. I’ve been in the exact same situation (DH’s friend who I’d never met stayed with us about a week, 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment). Our apartment had quite a large lounge and the friend slept on the floor in there. I was working so I only really saw him in the evenings and weekends which wasn’t too bad.
But at other times in life when I’ve been a SAHM or studying – not a chance, I need my space.
Post # 6
That’s what friends are for.
Post # 7
10 days with a guy I don’t know, invading my personal space? Definite NO!
Post # 8
t think thats unreasonable. That
s a while for someone you dont know. I`m someone who likes my privacy. How about having him stay a night or two with you and in the rented room for some of the other nights?
Post # 9
I would hate this. I’m the type of person who would give a firm no if a friend asked for a temporary place to stay. It would have to be an emergency and have a clear and established end for me to say yes – and that would have to be a close friend.
However, if your husband is insisting, I think you ought to pick your battles with this one and just be a gracious host. It’ll work out better for you and your marriage.
Post # 10
Why can’t the friend rent out the other room and pay the $90 himself? Surely it’s cheaper than a hotel? Just say you don’t have the space (which you don’t really)
Post # 11
Yeah, I’m generally a social person, but I’d have issues with most anyone crashing on my couch for 10 days. I’d probably put up with it though if it were a rare thing, especially if a friend were down and out. Maybe I’m getting old 🙂
Post # 12
Yeah, you’re being unreasonable. I trust that my husband has good choice in friends. If we have to give up the comforts of our home for a week/10 days to help his friend, then we would. I should hope he’d do the same for one of my friends.
Post # 13
10 days could feel like eternity if you were lacking the privacy and personal space you’ve come to expect in your own home.
I’d put a 3-4 day cap on it. That is a reasonable length of time to accommodate a friend. I can’t imagine the guy really wants to mooch and sleep on a couch for more than a couple of days anyhow.
Post # 14
I’m with you; I wouldn’t be comfortable with someone I don’t know staying in my house and sharing a bathroom. I agree with LoveBugBee- maybe a 3-4 day cap??
Post # 15
HuysuzAyi33: Depends on how good of a friend he is to DH. I really enjoy hanging out with DH and his buddies, and love when they come visit.
If it was some random guy that I’d never heard of, I’d probably be a little more hesitant and ask a lot of questions, maybe even convey my uncertainty. If DH was adamant, I’d ultimately suck it up because I know that I need to respect his judgement, though.