Am I clingy for expecting to be invited to a charity event with my SO?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

…if he doesn’t enjoy that sort of event and he isn’t kinda metro or a crossdresser, he probably doesn’t realize the appeal to getting all dressed up?

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

My husband goes to things without me regularly- some work related, some alumni events. I also don’t invite him to some things I go to. But we are not an attached at the hip couple.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

princesslettuce14:  Yes, he should have invited you. It’s a social event, the type of event where people would usually bring their partners, and you’re his gf. 

It’s hard to tell though if there’s something fishy, or he’s just being a bit thick 🙂

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

It sounds like he didn’t consider that you may want to go and I wouldn’t read too much into it. Sometimes my husband does work things without me (and vice versa). It is healthy as long as it is not all the time. Unless this is a pattern, I would let this one go.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

There’s no right or wrong with things like this, it just depends what works for you as a couple.  You should talk to him about your expectation that you be invited to these types of events.  But be prepared in case he doesn’t feel the same way, not everyone does.  

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

princesslettuce14:  My ex was like this.  He always managed to make me feel clingy and, funny enough, he always went to charity events in the Bronx and never invited me.  This bitch that he ended up cheating on me with organized everything….so now I know why.  I’m NOT saying he’s cheating on you.

He also managed to not invite me to his own brother’s wedding even though he was given a +1 (????????)

Bottom line – he was a dick that was happy to lead me on for a good 2 years and I was an idiot for staying with a guy that repeatedly showed me he wasn’t that into me.  Maybe your guy is a doofus or maybe you need to have chat with him and tell him you want to be in a serious relationship.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

princesslettuce14:  Maybe he plans to just stop by to show face and doesn’t want to hang there all night? Or maybe he does these things a few times a year and doesn’t think to invite someone?

Besides that, it doesn’t seem like you even support the charity so why do you care? There are many groups that try to get children invested in some sport or club to keep them from doing other things. It’s a good thing and very often can be very beneficial to these children and their families.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not necessarily clingy. Perhaps you just have different ideas re the status of your relationship. You think you should do everything together. He doesn’t.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I work in public health and have helped throw a lot of charity events. They aren’t necessarily all for couples, or all requiring dress up.

Maybe he just isn’t ready for the big public unveiling of you as his very serious girlfriend? It’s still early in the relationship.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

rachel85:  If it was under 6 months, maybe but 8 months?

Everyone is different but if a guy still wants to keep a chick under wraps at 8 months…something is up.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

princesslettuce14:  Oh well…..if you’ve turned him down to be his date at a family wedding then he’s probably cautious about it.  You kind of dug your own hole on that one.

If he’s over the age of 25 I think he should be mature enough to have you and an ex in the same room.  

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I understand being bothered….I don’t understand why it automatically has to be because of another woman?

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