Post # 1
Just be honest with me guys . Am I a crazy person.Been dating my bf for almost a year even though we love each other and talk about being together with our own family and getting married .I have not gotten a ring but yet I search for wedding dresses love,love,love Pinia Tornai (not sure if i could ever afford her designs but still love her) even have him wacthing say yes to the dress on tlc with me . I’ve been looking on honeymoon destinations and all . I know there in no problem having what u would want in mind but do u think I am taking it too far
I even printed a checklist for a wedding and looking on even shoes i would want to wear but i am wondering is this behaviour even normal. I dont want to say anything about this to my friends or family so here I am asking opinions form you guys base on the fact that u will not hold back what u think to spear my feelings.
Thanks in advance guys.
Post # 3
@march2417: As long as you’re both comfortable with it, I say it’s fine. Just be aware though that if you get too far into planning, you might end up cheating yourself out of a memorable/special proposal, and maybe even an e-ring (because by then your focus will already be on paying catering deposits, etc.) As long as you’re ok with that, though, I say go for it.
Post # 4
I don’t think there is anything wrong with daydreaming, deciding a ballpark idea of what you’d like, or doing some very basic research about venues, designers and so forth. But if it starts taking over time and energy that you would otherwise spend doing other things, then it’s a problem. Like if you watch SYTTD a couple times a week, no biggie; it’s a reality show and many people find those entertaining. Just watching Top Chef twice a week wouldn’t be a problem even if you weren’t planning to open a restaurant, would it? But if you’re watching a dozen episodes a week and stopping other activities just because that is on… you might be going a little overboard.
Generally I dont’ recommend too much pre-planning because your tastes, visions, and budget are likely to change between now and the unknown date of your wedding (assuming of course a proposal is forthcoming). You don’t want to have such a concrete vision in your mind so far in advance that you’re unable to adapt it based on your actual circumstances and wishes when you actually do get engaged.
Post # 5
In my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with mentally planning your wedding, but I wouldn’t go so far as to try on dresses, buy shoes, look at venues, etc. until you are officially engaged. I’m sorry to say it, but you don’t know FOR SURE that it will happen and actually planning your wedding this early might freak your BF out and make him feel pressured.
Luckily there are sites like this and Pinterest where you can look at tons of wedding stuff without actually planning yet!
Post # 6
Yes, just because you make him watch SYTTD with you.