(Closed) Am I crazy?

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
  • poll: DO YOU THINK I AM CRAZY? (BE HONEST)
    YES : (8 votes)
    27 %
    NO : (4 votes)
    13 %
    MAYBE : (10 votes)
    33 %
    IT'S A GIRL'S THING : (8 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @march2417:  As long as you’re both comfortable with it, I say it’s fine. Just be aware though that if you get too far into planning, you might end up cheating yourself out of a memorable/special proposal, and maybe even an e-ring (because by then your focus will already be on paying catering deposits, etc.) As long as you’re ok with that, though, I say go for it.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with daydreaming, deciding a ballpark idea of what you’d like, or doing some very basic research about venues, designers and so forth.  But if it starts taking over time and energy that you would otherwise spend doing other things, then it’s a problem.  Like if you watch SYTTD a couple times a week, no biggie; it’s a reality show and many people find those entertaining. Just watching Top Chef twice a week wouldn’t be a problem even if you weren’t planning to open a restaurant, would it?  But if you’re watching a dozen episodes a week and stopping other activities just because that is on… you might be going a little overboard.

    Generally I dont’ recommend too much pre-planning because your tastes, visions, and budget are likely to change between now and the unknown date of your wedding (assuming of course a proposal is forthcoming). You don’t want to have such a concrete vision in your mind so far in advance that you’re unable to adapt it based on your actual circumstances and wishes when you actually do get engaged.

    Post # 5
    Member
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    In my opinion, there’s nothing wrong with mentally planning your wedding, but I wouldn’t go so far as to try on dresses, buy shoes, look at venues, etc. until you are officially engaged. I’m sorry to say it, but you don’t know FOR SURE that it will happen and actually planning your wedding this early might freak your BF out and make him feel pressured.

    Luckily there are sites like this and Pinterest where you can look at tons of wedding stuff without actually planning yet!

    Post # 6
    Member
    1408 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yes, just because you make him watch SYTTD with you.

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