Post # 1
My husband and I married December 25,2010.It was a small wedding with our mothers, sisters and brothers and children. It wasn’t the dream wedding that I had envisioned because it was rushed by our minister because it was Christmas, last minute and my dad wasn’t there. After about a year we were able to afford our dream wedding. I had gotten everything together and Wedding bee was my holy grail for inspiration and DIY (I even posted some of my projects (Smooches35)). We spent a whole year and a half sacrificing and planning and in the end…DISASTER!!! Our wedding became about everyone else with not a good memory at all. It was 2 hours late, I had a family member cater and she ran off with 60lbs of uncooked chicken, my drinks were being sold without my permission, my makeup and hair was rushed, my DJ bailed 45mins before my wedding so we had no music to walk to or at my reception. We ran out if food and plates because of the caterer, my 11year old daughter got into a fight with in laws and that’s just the tip of it. The thought of it all makes me cringe. Our five year anniversary is in 2015, and as we look back on our SEVEN blurry wedding pictures my husband decided that we should have the wedding we always envisioned. This time with a venue that provides EVERYTHING AND A COORDINATOR. Am I wrong for wanting this? We have wonderful memories with each other but we would love to see our dream come true on OUR special day. What do you guys think?
Post # 3
@LilMrsSunshine35: To each his own. I wouldn’t spend my money on another wedding because other things are more important to me, but you have to do what’s right for you.
Post # 4
@LilMrsSunshine35: That sounds perfectly reasonable to me! Good luck and remember to make it about you and your DH and don’t let anyone else boss you around!!
Post # 5
@LilMrsSunshine35: Whatever you think works for you. 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t think you’re wrong for wanting it, but I don’t think I would do it. I already look back and cringe at the amount of money and time that went into my wedding and I would never do that again. To each his own though!
Post # 7
@LilMrsSunshine35: I think doing it for a 5 year anniversary is a little soon BUT your wedding day should be something you look back on with fond memories. At this point you have tried it twice, so you would need to spend money on making sure everything goes smoothly ex: having professional caterers and decorators, not family members who left you high and dry.
If you can afford it, why not?
Post # 8
@LilMrsSunshine35: Take that money and you and your DH have a dream vacation with it. Make other beautiful memories no one can ruin for you.
Post # 9
I don’t think you’re wrong or crazy, but I don’t quite get why you’d want another do-over unless you have unlimited funds.
You had two weddings already… do you really like getting married that much? Lol. Like what’s to prevent something similar from happening again? Is there really nothing better you’d want to spend your money on? New car? Vacation? Cottage?
I dunno. I’m not even excited about my upcoming wedding… I want to be married but I could do without the ceremony and so on (and we’re doing something super small). To each her own, I guess.
Post # 10
I’d take a nice luxury vacation and renew vows with just the two of you.
Post # 11
@BelleriverBride: I totally agree.
@LilMrsSunshine35: Take that money and go on a vacation that tops all vacations. Just the 2 of you. That way, no one else can ruin it. Besides, how many guests would you really have at your 3rd wedding in 5 years?
Post # 12
I aggree with PPs I think you should take that money and go on an amazing vacation and maybe renew your vows. Don’t invite anyone and make those your new memories.
Post # 13
I’d take an INCREDIBLE luxurious vow renewal vacation with just you, DH, and your kids!