Am I crazy?

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You over stepped your bounds.  

Post # 3
43300 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sunshineliz22:  I think you owe her an apology. You stuck your nose in where it didn’t belong and obviously he and her mother told her. It was not your business to contact the mother or the boyfriend (now FI).

Post # 4
7304 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Yeah, you definitely overstepped your boundaries by interfering in something that was not your business. It’s time to apologize, big time.

Post # 6
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Sunshineliz22:  eeek! I understand where you were coming from but I think you shouldn’t have texted her mom and her FI. It sounds like it came from a good place, but it definitely was not your place to say anything except be there for her to enjoy her excitement. She sounds like she has been waiting a long time and to her, all that happened here was that her weekend (and proposal) was ruined.

Post # 7
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Your heart was in the right place, but not a good call.

Post # 9
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think you had good intentions. I think she is being a little dramatic, but at the same time someone, either FI or her mom, might have told her what you were saying (and maybe in the not so nicest way), so maybe that is why she got upset.


I think you should talk to her and say look, I am sorry if I ruined anything, I thought we were friends, I just wanted you to have an amazing expereince and wanted you to have a big surprise and not catch on to all of the hints…I thought I was being a friend and by no means had any bad intensions behind it. I am sorry and whatever was said to you was not how I wanted it to play out. And if she insists on not speaking still then that is her fault and you did your best to try and mend what friendship you had left.


Sometimes what you think might be a nice gesture and a friendly thing to do, might not come off that way to others. Sad but true. Don’t dwell on it too much though. Sorry hun.

Post # 10
5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Sunshineliz22:  what you did was beyond inappropriate. You deserve all the hell she gives you for it. Never, ever, meddle in someone’s relationship. OMG her boyfriend must have been mortified by your message.

Post # 11
43300 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sunshineliz22:  She likely needs some time to calm down. I think you did have good intentions and, in time, she will realize that.

Post # 12
3841 posts
Honey bee

Sunshineliz22:  While your intent was not malicious, I believe you overstepped only because you were not a part of the engagement surprise.  She way overreacted but she was probably upset in that she felt you were meddling into something that wasn’t your business.

Post # 14
2930 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

This was a total overstep.  I wouldn’t even do this to my closest friend, let alone someone who was more of work aquataince at this point. 

You likely delayed her purposal, which even if it wasn’t a surprise on when, how can still be a great surprise as well. 

Post # 15
2455 posts
Buzzing bee

Sunshineliz22: Yes, you are in the wrong here. Why would you do that? You probably really embarassed her. I was pretty positive when my proposal was coming but I sure as hell didn’t want him to know that! You owe her an apology and if I were her I’d ask you to delete their numbers as well.

You are extremely nosey.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  MrsKriegerson.
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