Post # 1
I went in to a very well known jewlery place the other day out of curiosity. I know I’m getting my grandma’s plain gold band but I’m wondering if I should get an engagement ring…. I still don’t know if I want 2 rings, kinda silly for me since I’m a plain jane.
Well the woman was pleasant and walked me around telling me about the company and I told her outright I did not want to spend anything over 500. She looked at me like I was crazy and asked me if my SO was being cheap. (she was trying to sound like she was joking but she wasnt)
I told her no but I didn’t want to spend so much because I could definatly use that money to do something else (like pay for a month of student loans!) She then told me to think of it as an investment on my future and how I would have it for the rest of my life blah blah blah. I also said no diamonds, because of my diamond western african fear.
All I could think of was that I didn’t want to look at my finger for the rest of my life with regret for spending that much money. I told her I didn’t want to budge on my original plan, she than showed me the most wonderful ring, had me try it on, compare it with a gold band and everything. So lovely, it was 1200 and full of diamonds! (I was under the impression they were white sapphires!)
I was really furstrated and put off, I thanked them for their time and walked out. I know they work on comission but seriously, I will never go back there again and will tell my SO if we decide to go the 2 ring route not to go there!
Am I being dramatic?
Post # 3
That’s definately rude! I guess they’d rather sell nothing than sell you a $500 ring
Post # 4
NO! Sales people should listen to the customer, even if (and especially if) they work on commission). When you said up front you had a max budget, she should respect that, not argue with you! And especially not trick you into trying something on you couldn’t afford! I hate pushy sales people like that! & purposefully will wait until someone else is there to buy from (if I really want something there).
Actually, part of the reason I was able to find my ring was because the sales lady was so nice & I made sure Fiance bought it from her when he bought it. (He promises that he did)
Post # 5
Very rude indeed. Be comfortable with your decisions because they sound sensible, and more importantly, they mean a lot to you!
Sometimes it’s worthwhile to write to the management in these situations. If it put you off so much that you probably wouldn’t go into the store again, they would probably want to know about it. Retailers need constructive critisism all the time… Just a thought.
Post # 6
So rude!! I would not give them my business, i would feel insulted.
Post # 7
It is very rude but she is probably just doing her job. Even if you complained about her to management I would bet they wouldn;t say boo to her except maybe to say try to judge better. Most people would probably fall for that sales pitch- especially males and especially if she mentioned being cheap!
I kind of related it to new home (display home) shopping. they never build display homes/suites with the basics- they build the upgraded ones so that you will spend the extra money!
And definately don;t let it sway your decision unless you want to change. We spent under $500 fro an e-ring and avoided naturally sourced diamonds for similar concerns (conflict and better things to spend money on). The only thing that matter is that you and your Fiance are happy with your choice and not what society or some snotty sales person thinks!
Post # 8
That wasnt very nice of her but dont let it/her ruin your experience. Look again at another store and see what you like. There are some very nice rings on ESTY that are very low key and very well priced. Maybe check them out 🙂
Post # 10
@GelaMac: agreed. salespeople can be rude – she seemed rude and judgmental and probably was that way bc she assumed she had nothing in the store to show you that you would buy. i would just look elsewhere, don’t let people ruin your time!
Post # 11
Agreed! Try etsy! Or a place that is NOT based on commission (like Shane Co), if you want to try some on!
Post # 12
I guess it was rude, but what were you hoping to see? Do retail stores stock (in-store) wedding bands with white sapphires or any non-diamond stone? If you wanted to see something besides a plain gold band, then you’re often just talking about some sort of diamond band.
Post # 13
No you’re not crazy for being upset. She was obnoxious. Some jewelry store sales people are so professional and attuned to what you are asking for. Others are just ballsy and pushy.
Something similar happened to me when I took the 1/2 ct. solitaire family ring my Fiance proposed with to a nice jewelry store here. It’s in a very high end shopping area. I wanted to see some examples of settings that might go with my/our diamond.
The sales guy was such a snob and the very first thing he said to me was, “That’s much smaller than the diamonds we usually see. I’ve been buying and selling center stones in the $10,000 range to be honest.”
That comment just stopped me in my tracks and took the wind out of my sails. I walked into that store feeling happy, hopeful and excited to see settings for my *engagement ring,* the most important and sentimental piece of jewelry I will ever have. And he was so cruel with that comment. It made me feel self-conscious, as if I should be ashamed my Fiance gave me a half carat to start with. I browsed for a few minutes and then left. I still can’t drive past that store without remembering that awful thing he said.
Moral of the story — go somewhere else where they will LISTEN to you and treat you with dignity and respect.
Post # 14
How unbelievably rude! This reminded me of when I called up to check my engagement ring would be covered on the household contents insurance. The guy said something about: “If you’re a lucky girl and he’s spent more than X…”
So rude. Not everyone measures the value of things by how much they cost. I hope you have better luck elsewhere.
Post # 15
No, you’re not crazy about being upset. I don’t get these salespeople. You say $500, they should show you stuff in the price range you want. End of story.
Post # 16
You have every right to be upset. But don’t let it get you down, find someone who does want your $500 and will treat you with some respect.
I just don’t understand some jewelers. We got outrageous quotes and treated quite rudely when we were looking for a setting for my diamond. It should be easy to figure that here is a young couple, just starting our lives together. No matter how much I have to spend NOW on a ring, it’s just the beginning. We still had to buy a wedding band. Then he’ll come get me something for our anniversaries. And when we have a baby. And for my birthday (I like shiny things, not going to lie). But it seems like and engagement ring would be the start of a good relationship with a client if you treat them right. He’d go right back for whatever he wanted.