Post # 1
FI and I plan to move in together when we get married. On top of that, we want to get a new place for both of us to live in, so neither of us ends up moving into the other person’s life, so to speak. We can both move out of our current places at any time because our roommates are still there. All we have to do is find a new apartment close by that we can start renting in August.
So here’s my plan: Have the move-in date of the new apartment be August 1. Then we have that whole week to move our stuff to the new place before the wedding on August 7. Then by the wedding day, all that’s left in my old apartment is my bed and bathroom stuff, and I can lean on my family to move those for me while I’m honeymooning.
Bonus: My immediate family lives out of town, so they’ll be able to stay at the new apartment for the week leading up to the wedding, and not have to pay for a hotel.
The reason I’m planning this so close to the wedding is so neither of us moves into the new place early. And I don’t want to pay double rent for a whole month, so I only plan to have a one-week overlap.
Am I crazy for planning a move on the same week as my wedding? Any advice or warnings?
Post # 3
I think a lot depends on hown much “stuff” you need to move and how much of the “wedding stuff” you already have gotten done. As long as you try and complete as much of the final to do’s for your wedding, you should be ok….although moving can be a nightmare as we sometimes don’t realize how much crap we have until we actually start moving it! lol…. I wish you the best of luck!
Post # 4
Do you have much experience with moving in the past? I ask because I have moved more times than I’d care to count, I think I’ve gotten pretty good and efficient at it, and I still loathe it with the fire of a thousand hells. Moving into a new place would ruin my wedding week and then some. You go through about a dozen or so instances where you need to find something and it’s packed away, which is frustrating even if you are lucky enough to have labeled which box it’s in; it’s just maddening. You lose your sense of being able to relax and feel like you have a home base somewhere where you can count on finding everything when you need it.
Don’t let me dissuade you if you’re sure you want to do it, though, that’s just my personal feelings about it!
Post # 5
Hmm.. I would probably wait until after the wedding. Just b/c I really enjoy getting stuff organized and arranged and all that. With the wedding on the horizon, i’m not sure you’d be able to give full attention to either thing. But hey! if you don’t have to work and have free time, it might not be a bad idea! It’s probably better to come home from the honeymoon to a house, than it is to come to a bunch of boxes to move. Maybe you could bat your eyelashes at your close friends to see if anyone can help get things situated w/ you guys? take some of the pressure off?
Post # 6
I moved two weeks before my wedding, and it was the most stressful situation I could have put myself into. I was just moving into a different apartment in the same complex! Between work and moving, last minute details and trying to pack for my honeymoon– I personally wouldn’t recommend it. I understand wanting to save money, but having your things all settled before your wedding week might make the week more enjoyable for you.
ETA– the reason I had to wait so long to move in was because we had to wait on people to move out of that apartment. We wanted to move sooner, but couldn’t get things in place in time with an earlier lease date in another unit. So, over the Christmas holiday it was! 🙂
Post # 7
Don’t wait until after, its nice to have a home to come home from your honeymoon & a place your family can stay at & take your wedding gifts to. However, most of my friends have moved in about 1 month before their wedding (either the guy or the girl moves in 1st). You can move out of your current apartment about 3 or 4 weeks before your wedding, into the new place & start organizing your stuff as much as you can. Your FI can start moving his stuff over about a week or 2 after you. I’m not sure how much stuff you or he has thou. If you have a lot of stuff, its smart to start packing now. Get as much done in your free time, starting with things that you won’t really need, you’d be suprised at how hard it is to pack & plan a wedding.
Make a box specifically for all wedding stuff & clearly label it. Anything you’ll use for your wedding, keep it in there. I kept all my wedding stuff in a big box & it was great.
Post # 8
A little 😉
There is no way I would have wanted to deal with moving and the wedding at the same time but we did everything ourselves so that plays a huge factor. Will you have movers or will you be doing it yourselves? Moving and a wedding are two huge stressors in life as it is, so there’s no telling where it ranks if you combine them.
I actually know a girl who moved, graduated and got married the same weekend.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the input! The point about losing wedding stuff during the move is a legitimate issue, and I’ll definitely take that caution to heart.
Let me clarify a few details. We found an apartment in the same complex as my current one that would be ready in mid-July. So I could move a month early if I wanted, and be all settled in by the wedding. This option has two downsides: (1) my family won’t have a separate place to stay on the last week before the wedding, and (2) it’s not quite so “story book” perfect as moving in together on our wedding day.
If I move in mid-July, it would just be me and FI moving stuff, and we’d have to borrow someone’s pick-up truck for a day or two. It would take forever with just the two of us. If I move on the wedding week, my family will be here to help, so we’ll have 6 people to help move stuff instead of 2.
As for how much stuff I have, it’s about as much as you’d expect an apartment-dweller to have: one complete living room set, dining table and chairs, one complete bedroom set, desk and computer, all my kitchenware and dishes, and misc belongings. I’ve been saving boxes for a while, and I could start packing small non-essentials into boxes now.
I currently have two days of vacation planned on my wedding week – Thursday and Friday. I could extend it if I needed to, but I don’t want to use up all my vacation for the year just to move and honeymoon.
So am I still crazy? 😉
Post # 10
I think becuase of the roommate situation, it’s not so bad. If you couldn’t get all of your stuff out “on time”, would they be willing to let you slide on a few boxes? would they move some stuff for you while you are on your honeymoon?
I think you would be fine…it really all depends on how much stuff you have, how organized you are, and how much help you have.
I think it would be a beautiful way to start your lives together to come back from your honeymoon and go to your new place. And what a bonus, haivng a place for folks to stay to avoid a hotel charge!
Post # 11
Yeah the roommate would be fine letting me leave some stuff behind. Her boyfriend is moving in after me, and all he has to bring is a bigger bed, so it’s not like there won’t be any space to leave my own stuff behind. I definitely want to get my furniture out of there before the wedding though, while my family is still down here to help.
And yes, I am a very organized bride. 🙂 All my friends think I’m trying to pull off too much on my wedding week… I think they’ve underestimated me!