Post # 1
My FI and I have never been on vacation together before. The only time that we have gone out of town together before is when we’ve gone to Chicago (which is about two hours away from where we live) and to me, that’s not really vacation.
We’ve been saving up for a long time to get married (like two years) and I feel like we deserve a honeymoon. The only problem is that when my FI decided to go back to school to finish up his associates he quit his job (partially due to the amount of work the classes would take out of him, but also because his job was getting to be too much for him) Now that he is done with school until after we get married he is really working at looking for a job but with this economy and the location in which we live having one of the highest unemployment rates it’s tough. He’s looking for anything but so many jobs require a lot of previous experience or schooling. I’m just trying to have faith something will pull through soon because I’m going back to school this semester and will be working too (trying to get a promotion as well) in order to provide for us.
I’m not trying to be completely selfish but I’m DYING to have some adventures with him. We barely go out and really try to watch our money but it’s been difficult with the holidays. I’ve suggested to FI that we should look into booking a cruise for right after the wedding because besides the excursions and the flying they are pretty much all inclusive as far as the food and entertainment go. He’s never been on one before and I just went on my first a few years ago. So far he’s told me that he just wants to stay within the state or around here when we get married (like go back to Chicago AGAIN) but I’m worried that’s too silly.
I’m even ok waiting for a while after the wedding to go on our real honeymoon. But I’m not sure. I feel like we’ve been through a lot and I would love to be able to have some time alone after getting married.
I’m in deep need of some advice.
Post # 3
I think that a cruise is a really good compromise between staying closer to home and going on a more adventurous trip abroad. It’s a more controlled setting, since you’re on the ship/with people from the ship basically the whole time, so it isn’t as overwhelming as other international trips. And like you mentioned, it had a lot of inclusivity in the pricing. I think it would be a good step to getting more adventurous for the future :-). And yes, I do think everyone should take a honeymoon, even if it’s delayed – there was something really special about collapsing together after the marathon leading up to the wedding that made it so much more special. My husband and I have literally traveled the world, but rented a house outside the Rocky Mountain National Park for our honeymoon. Not as “exotic”, but definitely amazing. If he’s really uncomfortable with a cruise, i’d definitely recommend something like that. It was fabulous! Good luck!
Post # 4
Before my Fiance proposed to me in Disney (we are now going back to Disney for our honeymoon) I had my heart set on going on another cruise for our honeymoon (I’ve been on 3 but not with my Fiance)! Personally I have nothing but good things to say about cruises.. I had SOOO much fun all three times I went! My fiance and I are hoping to go on one maybe in a few years 🙂
Post # 5
Oh you need a vacation! And a honeymoon is the best excuse. It’s a dream trip that you will remember for a lifetime. IF you need help paying for it, what about doing a honeymoon registry? We used Honeymoon Wishes and couldn’t be happier.
A cruise is great, but it can get expensive if you drink and since you’re somewhere near Chicago I’m assuming you will need to fly. There are some great cruises out of Seattle or the East Coast. I guess you’re basically in the middle so you can choose anywhere. Carnival is an inexpensive cruise line and they have their own honeymoon registry, too.
Another option is an all-inclusive resort. Think tropical, adults only and romance! We went to Sandals (where my FI proposed) and it is so romantic!!!! The price looks a little daunting at first, but you literally DO NOT pay for anything! You’re not even allowed to tip! Your food, alcohol and activities (snorkeling, kayaking, etc) are all included. They also have a honeymoon registry. They are in the Caribbean but I know there are some less expensive all inclusives in Mexico.
Hope this helps! Let me know if you need help with a travel agent. We used Carefree Vacations and they were great!
Post # 6
No, everyone I know who’s ever been on a cruise loved it and they can be so economical because they’re all inclusive. There are even cruises to the Caribbean that last 3-5 days and are less than $300 per person. Here:
Post # 7
So your FI doesn’t want to go on a cruise for what reason exactly?
Post # 8
We’re cruising to Bermuda for our honeymoon. Our cruise is a little more expensive because it leaves out of NJ but if you’re willing to fly to FL, you could get a cruise for relatively cheap. Cruises are the perfect honeymoon to take on a budget.
Post # 9
@ATP2011: Agree. Get to the bottom of the exact reason. He may be using $ as an excuse, but really he is afraid of leaving something he knows or maybe of flying? If you find out what, you can do a lot of research together so he can get comfortable with the idea.
Post # 10
is it the cost that he has an issue with? my FI had a really hard time when he was out of work for a bit. he said it was really hard as a man to have me working & not him. i think setting up a honeyfund or some other honeymoon registry sounds like a great idea if that’s the issue. other people are funding most of it, you could even have them vote on where you should go. then it’s a gift from them to you two as a couple & neither of you needs to feel guilty about spending money on it. if he doesn’t like boats or flying, then i guess i can understand why that wouldn’t be an ideal way for him to start of your married life together. i LOVE cruises! FI has never been on one & i too think it would make for a perfect honeymoon! hope you have a cruise in the your near future=)
Post # 11
@ATP2011: I believe it is only because of the money. He is a very adventurous man and we have talked and talked about going overseas to England and living there when we finally have the money and when the time is right (probably after we both graduate college). I’m sure he’s not afraid of boats or airplanes because he’s been flying before.
Post # 12
Cruises are such a cheap way to take a luxurious, relaxing vacation! There are always amazing deals being advertised, and if you want to save even more money there’s always the possibility of taking a repositioning cruise.
Post # 13
I think cruises are fantastic! As long as you don’t drink a lot (booze isn’t included), they are a very good value too. I think it would be a great honeymoon. You deserve one!