- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
So, FH finally joined the FB world a couple months ago. Of course, an ex from high school happens to find him and contacts him. I don’t have any issues with this. Supposedly her finace just died, FH wants to be a friend to her in her time of grief, having dealth with the loss of his mom. Fine with this too, as he is an awsomely sweet guy, and I trust him completely. We have access to each other’s phones, and he’s up front right away with everything, even reads me their messages or hands me his phone to read. (I’ll just say, I never really trusted this chick, she was the type who always saw a girlfriend as just an obstacle, but I figured she’s greiving, there’s no way that’s her intent, right?)
She started texting him all day long, starting with a good morning to good night sweetheart, then started making sexual innuedo and jokes. Here, I get uncomfortable, tell FH that I don’t like it, he needs to address it because she is being disrespectful to me, and our relationship, and therefore him. He texts her and tells her she needs to tone it down, he doesn’t want to do anything that might hurt me. Her reply is “I’m cold, I can handle it”???
It gets better, she doesn’t cross the line, so I don’t bother reading any of their texts for a couple weeks. Then for some reason I felt the urge to read them, so I did. (Yes, I know, many of you will jump and say I dont trust him. It’s not that, he was completel oblivious to her disrespect the first time, until I pointed it out. He’s a little too nice, if that makes sense, and doesn’t understand females and their ulterior motives.)
As I am reading I get more and more pissed, she keeps saying, I have this connection with you, I know what I want, Don’t make me say something I might regret. You mean so much to me.
He doesn’t really acknowledge her, but doesn’t shut her down either. He tells me, I think she just means as a friend. So I point out a poem she posted on her FB 3 days ago
I am so angry that I message her on FB. I am decent though. All I say is “He doesn’t have feelings for you, and is not interested in you that way. I’m sorry if I’m wrong about your interests, but I really don’t think I am.”
He gets up and we talk, he deletes her from his phone, deletes all the messages and tells me she is not worth hurting me or loosing me over. I’m still a little hurt that he let her continue disrespecting me, but we will work it out.
Next day she texts him, So wow, now H is messaging me on FB, it’s good to know, take care.
So here it all is. Am I wrong, or was she being disrespectful and trying to weasel into a relationship with FH? I need to know I am not crazy, lol