Am I crazy or is this weird – mini-rant

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

It might be a little over board, but it sounds like you have been friends for a really long time and her family just really cares about you. I would appreciate the attention, and be polite- but also be pretty vague with them about details.

Consider yourself blessed to have these people think so much of you:)

Post # 4
668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Eh, it is a little weird. However, with social media and FaceBook in particular, I think some people feel that their connections with acquaintances rise to the level of close friendship through magnifying glass of the Internet. Things might get really awkward if you’re not planing to invite them–hopefully your BM will be able to explan that to her family when the time comes. In the meantime, perhaps keep your social media postings limited to PMs?

Post # 5
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Nosey questions is one thing, presumptuous actions is another… I’d take the suggestions and borderline-stalking with a grain of salt and roll my eyes. Some people just love weddings, and anything on FB is public knowledge and therefore not exactly an invasion of privacy. I WOULD say something however about them inviting themselves over to see mock ups or setting expectations with make up artists that you plan to hire them. If they like you and want to be a part of your life (and assuming your relationship will eventually grow to fit their weirdish enthusiasm).. this is basic boundary stuff to establish now… Don’t invite yourself over when I’m only inviting family, don’t tell people I’ve committed to something I actually haven’t. Nothing offensive about those statements.

Post # 6
681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

it is super weird to me…i would just ignore it, though. they live so far away it’s not like they can really stop by or interfere with vendors. if it gets worse i would probably say something to the friend, maybe she can intervene.

Post # 9
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I find it incredibly off-putting. I would just say thanks for the help, but my FI and I have it under control.

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