(Closed) Am I crazy? Or lazy? Or both?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m doing that with my bridesmaid.  They had an option of any Jcrew Silk Chiffon dress in Graphite.  My girlfriend was in a wedding where she was told to get a Jim Hjelm dress in a chiffon material and she was given a series of any color she could choose from.

I think that’s a more common thing now instead of having all BMs wear the exact same dress.

Post # 4
1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Um. Welllll, I know there are a zillion BM’s dresses out there. I think that it seems like you have a very specific look you’re going for. Are you sure that your BM’s can go out, pick something on their own from the JH line and you will be happy with it? It seems like you are having a hard time finding something YOU like! But you want them to find it on their own?

I don’t think I would hate it if a bride said something like “Find a deep plum dress you love” because it gives the BM’s so many options.

But saying “Find a deep plum dress in this length in this color in this material by this designer” isn’t giving them options. Its just making them do the work, lol.

Post # 5
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would prefer that to being asked to wear a dress that may not look good on me.

It is actually quite common to do this these days. I did this with my girls and they loved it! I actually just said the designer and the colour and told them to choose the rest. The dresses all turned out to be similar and look beautiful.

I wrote a post about it yesterday here.

Post # 6
1313 posts
Bumble bee

 I love that you are giving them a little freedom to choose what looks good on them — yay for you! Also, you can rest assured everything will look good together.

However, I would croak at the price. If your BMs are all comfortable with paying that much for a dress, that’s great, though!


Post # 7
832 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

i dont think youre being lazy. lots of brides do that. i would be totally fine if you said here’s the designer, this is the material, length, & color..pick one. i think that gives them room to move without being crazy. & as a bride, i want the colors to match, not be different shades when they arent supposed to be. i think its fine that you ask them to do that (:

Post # 9
1313 posts
Bumble bee

I say go for it! It’s really considerate of you to be willing to help out. I also think your BMs will appreciate you letting them choose the style

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