Post # 1
I am in the middle of planning my June 21st wedding of this year. All the big stuff is done– dress, photographer, venue, band, caterer, etc. we haven’t sent out save the dates yet and I know it’s time, but I just am not really having fun planning this wedding. I love my FI and am excited to marry him, and I’ve always dreamed about planning my wedding. But now it’s just so much more stressful than fun. I ended up with a much bigger wedding party than I had hoped, which I am a little bummed about, and part of me wants to cancel all the deposits and have a small ceremony with family somewhere. Does anyone else have these thoughts? Has anyone canceled everything for a small small wedding? Does anyone else hate wedding planning that thought it would be the best thing ever…?
Post # 3
We decided on a DW (Sweden), just to keep it small (around 30 people) and now it’s slowly growing + I have to do everything from afar. So, I definitely get you feeling! Some days I’m just thinking that it’s all crazy, all I want to do is to marry my best friend – we can do that up north in cottage country, just the two of us! Then I think about how sad that would make my grandma and I try to focus on the good stuff instead.
Post # 4
Hey! I don’t think you’re crazy!
Wedding planning *is* way more stressful than I imagined. I am still excited to plan and have the wedding, but things have taken many turns away from what I always imagined my “dream wedding” to be, and I’ve had to talk myself down quite a few times (and cancel a dress order!)… (You’ll likely see a post from me about these very two things quite soon, as they’re big themes in my wedding life at the moment!)
That being said, my husband and I are already married, we did the city hall, small wedding thing about a year and a half ago and felt that we were missing the big celebration with friends and family.
I say do what you really feel is right, but after a LOT of consideration, especially considering you’ve got deposits on almost everything already, and this is (likely) what you *did* want before stress set in. Don’t do anything hasty, but go with your (well thought out) heart.
Post # 5
I am worried about feeling that way, to a certain extent! Thank goodness our venue has a ~200 person maximum.
I feel like if we had a small wedding the idea of “financial stress” wouldn’t even be in the picture for a minute. But with ~200 guests, it might be a stretch, and all of the DIY elements start to seem a little more unreasonable. Sigh…
But I hope you start to feel better about your plans! It sounds like most of the big stuff is out of the way… maybe after you send out the STDs you could take a couple months off from planning. :}