Am I crazy to be the one cooking for my wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Food
Post # 3
2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yes.  You want to enjoy your wedding and the guests, not be cooking in the kitchen all day.  Is it possible to find a caterer that lets you bring your own alcohol?  Can you opt for a different type of menu?  I was on a very thin budget and handled it by telling vendors what my budget was up front and having them tell  me what my money would get me.  It worked!

Post # 4
8388 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@anemone681:  I think it depends, but logistics are going to be tough if you don’t have good kitchen help.  If I were you I would start making a “week of” timeline and see how your timing for that day is.  If 95% of the dishes are done before the day of your wedding, I think it’s doable.  Also, consider what other DIYs you might have (flowers, centerpieces, etc).  For referrence, I baked an entire sweet n salty buffet (cake pops, cheese straws, homemade caramel, etc), 2 “rehearsal” dinner cakes, and my bouquets and aisle arrangements the week before my wedding and I don’t work.

Post # 5
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Yeah, you’re crazy.  Pay for the catering.

Post # 6
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@anemone681:  I’m not sure how you could do it and actually enjoy your wedding. I am all for saving money, but not at the expense of the overall day. I am baking my own cupcakes but I’m eloping and there will be a total of 4 of us. That is doable. Catering for a large group while actively participating in your own wedding? I don’t see how that is doable.

Post # 7
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It can be done, but you will probably be pulling your hair out by the time the wedding comes.

My FSIL had about 50 people at her wedding. The food was all cooked by a couple of family members, so she didn’t have all the stress, but it definitely can be done.

Post # 8
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@anemone681:  It depends on what you cook.  Also, bear in mind that you will need to cook everything ahead of time so you can get ready.  Do you have enough space to keep all of that food before preparing it?  After preparing it?  How are you going to transport it to the reception site?  Are you able to keep hot dishes hot and cold dishes cold so people don’t get food poisoning?  Etc….

We are ordering trays of BBQ by the pound from our local BBQ restaurant.  My mom and I are picking them up in my van on our way back to the reception site after getting our hair done at the salon on the day of the wedding.  I hired a day of coordinator to manage the food and we also will have burners to keep hot food hot and ice (and lot of fridges) to keep cold food cold until the reception.  Doing it this way cut our catering costs in half to about $12-15 a head depending on whether I just count food ($12/pp) or add in the cost of the DOC and service items like the burners ($15/pp).

Post # 9
2912 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Pay for catering. It’s not a dinner party it’s a wedding.

Post # 10
2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@anemone681:  I’ve thought about it, because I love my food, but I’d never do it. Too much stress.

Post # 11
1140 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

YES! Relax and enjoy your day! Keep looking for someone to do it for you!

Post # 12
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Ish… it is theoretically possible…. BUT you would have to make dishes which can be 90% done beforehand, and get someone to finish them on the day. Stuff like fish wrapped in foil with herbs which just requires a few mins in the oven before serving.

You would need a person to finish it on the day, plus plenty of fridge space both at your home and the venue. You would also need to transport the food chilled. Can you do that? Really? I did a DIY wedding just recently and it’s quite hardcore.

Post # 13
5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Ask a family member or get a caterer. You’ll want to be able to enjoy your wedding. 

Post # 14
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@anemone681:  No, not at all. I think it’s pretty awesome that you’re cooking for your big day. Just plan it well and get some folks to help you out the day before. Make sure everything is cooked the day before, so you can chillax on your big day. Good luck!

Post # 15
3813 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Please don’t, it will not be worth the stress in the end.  Like everyone else has said, you should be able to relax and enjoy your wedding, you shouldn’t have to do ANYTHING on your big day!

Post # 16
3806 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes. Don’t cook.

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