Post # 1
After talking to different venues and caters we are getting an average of $130 per person for dinner and drinks not that bad but still not where we like it. We can get $40 per person just for food but we werent impressed with the food and it was mostly pasta drowned in sauce. We are going to be having 60 invited, probably 40 will show, for the wedding. Im thinking the only way that this is going to work is for me to cook the meal. I have done dinner parties before for 30 so its not that much of a stretch for me but am I crazy to want to do this? I know I can have people help but most arent the best in the kitchen. Thoughts ladies?
Post # 3
Yes. You want to enjoy your wedding and the guests, not be cooking in the kitchen all day. Is it possible to find a caterer that lets you bring your own alcohol? Can you opt for a different type of menu? I was on a very thin budget and handled it by telling vendors what my budget was up front and having them tell me what my money would get me. It worked!
Post # 4
@anemone681: I think it depends, but logistics are going to be tough if you don’t have good kitchen help. If I were you I would start making a “week of” timeline and see how your timing for that day is. If 95% of the dishes are done before the day of your wedding, I think it’s doable. Also, consider what other DIYs you might have (flowers, centerpieces, etc). For referrence, I baked an entire sweet n salty buffet (cake pops, cheese straws, homemade caramel, etc), 2 “rehearsal” dinner cakes, and my bouquets and aisle arrangements the week before my wedding and I don’t work.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Yeah, you’re crazy. Pay for the catering.
Post # 6
@anemone681: I’m not sure how you could do it and actually enjoy your wedding. I am all for saving money, but not at the expense of the overall day. I am baking my own cupcakes but I’m eloping and there will be a total of 4 of us. That is doable. Catering for a large group while actively participating in your own wedding? I don’t see how that is doable.
Post # 7
It can be done, but you will probably be pulling your hair out by the time the wedding comes.
My FSIL had about 50 people at her wedding. The food was all cooked by a couple of family members, so she didn’t have all the stress, but it definitely can be done.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@anemone681: It depends on what you cook. Also, bear in mind that you will need to cook everything ahead of time so you can get ready. Do you have enough space to keep all of that food before preparing it? After preparing it? How are you going to transport it to the reception site? Are you able to keep hot dishes hot and cold dishes cold so people don’t get food poisoning? Etc….
We are ordering trays of BBQ by the pound from our local BBQ restaurant. My mom and I are picking them up in my van on our way back to the reception site after getting our hair done at the salon on the day of the wedding. I hired a day of coordinator to manage the food and we also will have burners to keep hot food hot and ice (and lot of fridges) to keep cold food cold until the reception. Doing it this way cut our catering costs in half to about $12-15 a head depending on whether I just count food ($12/pp) or add in the cost of the DOC and service items like the burners ($15/pp).
Post # 9
Pay for catering. It’s not a dinner party it’s a wedding.
Post # 10
@anemone681: I’ve thought about it, because I love my food, but I’d never do it. Too much stress.
Post # 11
YES! Relax and enjoy your day! Keep looking for someone to do it for you!
Post # 12
Ish… it is theoretically possible…. BUT you would have to make dishes which can be 90% done beforehand, and get someone to finish them on the day. Stuff like fish wrapped in foil with herbs which just requires a few mins in the oven before serving.
You would need a person to finish it on the day, plus plenty of fridge space both at your home and the venue. You would also need to transport the food chilled. Can you do that? Really? I did a DIY wedding just recently and it’s quite hardcore.
Post # 13
Ask a family member or get a caterer. You’ll want to be able to enjoy your wedding.
Post # 14
@anemone681: No, not at all. I think it’s pretty awesome that you’re cooking for your big day. Just plan it well and get some folks to help you out the day before. Make sure everything is cooked the day before, so you can chillax on your big day. Good luck!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Please don’t, it will not be worth the stress in the end. Like everyone else has said, you should be able to relax and enjoy your wedding, you shouldn’t have to do ANYTHING on your big day!