(Closed) Am I Crazy? Wanting to nix engagement ring for an 'engagement band?'

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I love larger bands- if Fiance hadn’t proposed with a family ring, that’s the route we would have gone.

That being said, just because you have a “pretty” ring, doesn’t mean you have to wear it all the time. We reset the family ring in an estate setting, and it’s a pretty delicate ring so I don’t wear it 24/7. We’ve been doing a lot of house work recently, so it’s been safely sitting in my jewelry box (wedding band is on all the time, though).

Post # 4
1736 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You do what’s right for you. I think you’ll find Bees have opinions on this that go in all sorts of different directions. I know that in my case, I rarely wear jewelry but I have a halo engagement ring. I just take it off for messy cooking and keep it in its case by my bedside when I shower, sleep, etc. Other Bees never take their’s off! It’s really a case-by-case basis.

Talk to your Fiance and get his take on things. Perhaps he has an opinion about what he’d like to gift to you! 🙂

Post # 5
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Nothing at all wrong with doing an engagement band and later using it as the wedding band – that’s what Fiance and I are doing!

Engagement rings with stones are, in part, a product of the diamond industry’s marketing and a fairly recent “tradition.” They are certainly pretty, but if they don’t work for you, there is no need to slavishly follow the trend. Go with something that suits you and your Fiance.

Post # 6
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I chose a really thin band that has tiny stones in it,and I’m super clumsy, too. It’s only been about two years with the e-ring, but I find that I slip it off before I cook or swim or do anything that could hurt the stones or the metal anyway, so it’s not a big deal that it’s delicate! Definitely do what’s right for you, but I think you’ll find a smaller e-ring is easier to deal with in the long run, anyway! I would probably invest in an insurance plan for it, though!

Post # 7
2106 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

What do to? Get insurance on it so that you won’t be devestated if you break it/lose it. 

Rings are surprisingly risiliant.  I banged my engagement ring (1 ct solitaire) so many times on cabinets and doors… it’s still fine. 

Post # 9
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t think you’re crazy at all! I suggested a band to my fiance when we were discussing rings, but he wanted me to have something with a bit more oomph. It really depends on the two of you. In the end, I was given a beautiful ruby and diamond engagement ring and I have simple gold band that I wear for work, cleaning, and sleeping because I am paranoid about doing damage to the ‘real’ ring. However, I don’t feel any different when wearing the simple band because I know what it represents. Hope this helps!

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