- 2 years ago
There’s something I’ve been stressing about because I don’t know what proper protocol is, and I don’t want to unknowingly hurt any of my family member’s feelings.
FI and I are getting married in a couple of months. It’s in the same state, but different city. Let’s say we’re from San Diego and getting wed in San Francisco.
My FI and I will be staying there 6 days. My parents chose to stay 6 days also. My brother will be staying 4 days.
It’s a metropolitan city, with lots to do and see. FI and I were looking forward to doing a lot of activites.
Am I expected to hang out with my family the entire time since they are only primarily flying in for our wedding?
I really wanted to spend time with my FI, especially since we can’t afford a honeymoon, and were going to treat this as a minimoon. I was hoping my family would understand that as newlyweds we’d like alone time as well.
From what I understand from my brother’s perspective is, he is wanting to party and bar hop…which FI and I are not into the club scene, and we drink probably 4 times a year.
My mom keeps bringing up making plans for getting together for dinners, and seems like she wants to do everything as a family, all 8 of us.
I’m planning on paying for a nice dinner (for all 8), the night before the wedding. The day-of we’re renting a cable car for 3 hours to take us around the city. And we’re paying for lunch.
The next day FI and I really wanted to go hiking and do some outdoorsy stuff. But it seems my family wants to do everything together.
Is it our responsibility to be with them all 6 days? I wanted to also add, I did not make it seem mandatory or anything to stay the length we were, they chose to stay that long.