- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
My FH and I got engaged last Xmas day, prior to this my FILs were a little odd however ok to a point and we got on.
Since we got engaged things have changed…for the worst!
My FH and I had decided on a few things prior to going round to his parents to discuss some things.
1. We are not having children at the wedding
2. We are not inviting cousins to the day, both our families are small but we have a budget of 50 for the day.
3. FH is having his best friend as best man not his brother
we are paying for the whole day ourselves and not asking for a penny from anyone, however FILs went crazy over the above using emotional blackmail saying thar we are ripping the family apart for not inviting cousins, FFIL went crazy about not FH not having his brother as best man saying it’s against family tradition.
FH brother has no idea how we met/where we live/never even given us a christmas card!
As for having children, FH nephew is the apple of his parents’ eyes and FFIL was furious saying we were going to break FH Nan’s heart.
(FH is very close to his nan)
i have 5 nieces/nephews and my family are 100% support of our choices! and are looking forward to our day.
The night ended in an argument and my FFIL punching my FH round the face and throwing out their house all because I stood up to them.
his brother won’t come to our wedding because we won’t invite children, and FFIL has said he hasn’t decided!!!!!!!
i havent properly spoken to FILs properly for months after this. They caused months of issues and problems for both of us, including putting me under so much stress I ended up having a breakdown and am now on antidepressants!
the FH spoke to FMIL tonight and almost a year later she is still pulling on his heart strings about everything!!
Am i freaking out over nothing or do I have the right to be more than annoyed??
Im at the end of my patience with it all and I have no idea what to do!!!!