- offbeat catskills bride
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’m new here and couldn’t help but post. I got engaged at the beginning of this month to my love of 8 years (yay!) and have been so excited to get going on the wedding planning. For me, being quite into fashion and style, getting the dress has been central to this!
Our wedding is going to be really small (about 35 guests) with the reception and ceremony both at a historic mountain house in upstate NY. The reception will be outside in a rose garden. Outside of the services, food, and alcohol at the site, we’ll be DIY-ing almost everything there is to DIY and we’ll be cutting out a lot of other non-necessities because we’re on a really limited budget. (We both recently graduated from college & graduate school, and neither of us feel right about taking much money from our trying-to-retire parents after both sets just sent us to expensive private universities.) We are not having a formal wedding party because the event will be so small–we will be asking our closest friends/family to play special roles in the ceremony instead.
My dress has been something that I want to make really special! I’ve been online dress shopping for quite a while now (as I said, the engagement wasn’t exactly a surprise…) and found that most dresses didn’t seem quite appropriate for me. Because it’s a more casual, outdoor wedding, I wanted something not full length and with a minimum of sparkle and frills. I’m very petite (5″ and around 95 lbs), so that added another layer of difficulty.
BUT, I found something I love and bought it last week! It’s actually a second hand dress I got off PreOwnedWeddingDresses.com. It’s a really lovely, tea length, ivory, raw silk dress with an exposed zipper in the back. Here is a link to it and pictures: http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/dresses/11159/Morgane-Le-Fay-Size-2.html
I ended up paying $700 (a deal as the dress retails for $2200!) and I absolutely love it. Trying it on is not exactly A+ yet, as I will need to get it altered (especially on top) for a proper fit, but I feel great in it! I’m planning on pairing it with a jeweled waist belt/sash, some blue amazing blue pumps, and some kind of pretty headpiece to top of my pixie haircut. Everyone who has seen it says it’s very, very “me”.
Here’s what I’m worried about: am I going to regret not having a more standard wedding dress? This is probably the only chance I’ll ever get to wear a full-length, totally glam dress. I get a little sad hearing ladies talk about train lengths and bustles and other stuff that comes with more formal dresses. I appreciate those types of dresses too and think they’re totally gorgeous, but probably not what’s best for me. But am I going to look back at my pics and regret not taking my one opportunity to really, really look like a BRIDE?
I look forward to hearing what you ladies think!