- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Hi Ladies. I’m sorry this may be a little long, but I’m looking for some advice.
I was in the car with my MaidOH and MatronOH and we were talking about wedding stuff. My wedding is a touchy subject when talking with my Matron because of her rushed wedding and my lack of participation because I wasn’t notified of events surrounding her wedding (her matron took on all of the responsibilities). The only way I found out about her Bridal shower was because I found the invitation on the top of the mailboxes in my apartment a week before (it didn’t have the right addy on it). When I would call/text her matron and ask what I could do she would simply say it was all done. I wasn’t able to attend her bridal shower because of the lack of notice and I had a conference for work that I could not be excused from. She called my supervisor (we all know each other) and asked for me to be off and she was told I couldn’t. After this I tried to be there for everything else (mind you I was there for all of the appts for the dresses, when she picked her dress and even went with her to meet her planner/decorator) and be very supportive. Fast forward to the night before her wedding, she blew up at me for my lack of support and emotions towards her getting married and I had to questions whether to show up the next day. All that being said we eventually got over it and things seem to be cool.
So we were in the car and I made mention of my bridal shower. She asked when was it and I turned and asked her when was it. I was under the understanding that they were going to plan it. She said that she wasn’t and that she had no plans to do so. She said that I told her that my mother would plan it, but I know I never made mention of this. I had just talked to my MaidOH about this a few weeks and she was all on board about planning the shower, but when she got into the car with MaidOH she suddenly had forgotten what we talked about. This really hurt my feelings and I made no more mention of this for the rest of our trip.
My question to you all is should I ask my MaidOH and MatronOH to plan my bridal shower, should I plan it myself or should I just go without having one.
Thanks in advance.