Am I in the wrong?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
Member
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’d have to say yes, you’re in the wrong. Maybe it just slipped out? You don’t always have time to get up and leave a room before one escapes. Bit silly to refuse a kiss over it.

Post # 4
Member
1907 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

Personally your FI is in the wrong here. My own FI and I have of course accidentally done it a couple of times in front of each other, but I would be pissed if he did what your FI did (I’m assuming your FI did it ‘as a laugh’) and I would gave refused the kiss and kicked him out the room. Totally unnacceptable. Of course farting is normal, and I enjoy potty humour, but I agree with you that it’s disrespectful that he often does it.

Instead of it leading to an argument, tell him calmly but seriously why he can’t go that again, and that other men do not do that. 

Post # 5
Member
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

 

Makemeamrs:  Even if he did it on purpose (which I really doubt he did) its still a petty thing to get so upset about. I mean, if he pinned you down and farted on your head then I can understand being upset.

Post # 7
Member
8706 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

It’s petty to be upset over a bodily function.

Post # 10
Member
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Im the same way about farting in our bedroom, or if he farts once and it smells terrible and he does it again anyways. Im like, be respectful and go into the bathroom! Now, if it ever just slips or he has a really bad tummy ache and cant control it, then whatever. I get where youre coming from and have had similar arguments, theyre only worth it if he listens to your feelings. Otherwise youre fighting a losing battle.

Post # 11
Member
8706 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

As if medical conditions matter?<br /><br />When you eat food, you produce gas. People swallow air when they eat or drink. Poop ferments. People fart. You fart, your dog farts, a fish farts, snakes fart, I fart, your grandma farts.<br /><br />It’s natural. I don’t see what medical conditions have to do with anything. Farts happen, it’s still petty. Keep a can of fabreeze nearby, spray his ass and problem solved.

Post # 12
Member
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

 

Makemeamrs:  Mostly I think you are in the right… but, it’s always good to keep in mind. I guess I’ll get personal here- I have a problem where I have a ton of food allergies and I can just get gassy from food without expecting it. And it gets uncontrollable. I have no idea what’s going on with your FI (and he totally could have left the room there) but is it really out of control? I just wanted to throw the possibility out there, I don’t know much of the context, but thought I’d throw it out there as a possibility. It really sucks for me, it is really embarassing and unpredictable. 

Post # 13
Member
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Farts are no big deal in the grander scheme of things. There are far worse things.

However, your issue here is feeling disrespected. And that is legit, as he seems to find it funny/cute (“to get you riled up”) and doesn’t get it actually *really* bothers you. He should make an effort. I’d explain that doing it intentionally, to get a reaction, makes you feel shitty (no pun intended…). If it slips, that’s one thing, and he can say ‘excuse me’, if that helps you feel less annoyed. Tell him you hate being annoyed with him- and that it isn’t about the farts as much as it is about respecting your wishes. Surely he doesn’t want you to feel annoyed- hopefully he listens!

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors