Post # 1
My venue is a private estate. The owner is a CWP and kind of plans everything for you. She requires you to use certain vendors for some things and urges you to use her vendors for everything. She’s a bit kooky and VERY particular about things on her property all the way down to time lines. I get it, it’s her property.
My photographer sent me her time line and it shot list and it looked great.
The venue owner sent me her time line and the pre-wedding stuff is a joke. We are not allowed to arrive any earlier than 4 pm. The ceremony starts at 5:30 pm with guest arrival at 5 pm. She doesn’t allow anyone to dress there except for the bride. She likes the bride to leave her dress there at rehearsal. Her pre-wedding time line just states “Bridal party to arrive at 4 pm, do not arrive early”. “First look and family photos from 4-5pm”.
My first problem with this is that we all arrive at the same time. I don’t want the groom or anyone else seeing me in a robe with my hair and make-up done. That’s dumb. Someone has to arrive 1st, which will take away from the “hour” she has for photos. Secondly it’s going to take a minute to get in my dress and take pics of the ordeal, more time out of that hour. Then 1st look pics.. they take what 20-30 min right? Even if we get them done in 15 min we have under 40 min to take all of our group and family pics.
I have A mom and step dad, and a dad and step mom which means we have to do everything twice on my side. Plus my grooms fam. Plus we have 3 squirrely kids to photograph (my son has high functioning ASD). Plus all the group stuff. The venue owner sold me on the first look because ALL of the pics (except the romantic ones of me and FI) were supposed to be able to be done before the wedding so our bridal party and family can enjoy cocktail hour. There is NO way we can get it done in 40 min.
I’ve already decided to put my dress on at the hotel we are getting ready at. That will save us some time. I asked my photog for ALL options and she mentioned shooting our 1st look, group, and family pics at another location 7 min from the venue. Am I insane for considering that? It’s not ideal but the thought of trying to cram it all in that hour stresses me out so bad! The location she suggested is gorgeous and also looks similar to our venue (which doesn’t matter to me). What would you do? Try to get it done in an hour or shoot at the other location?
I kinda wish I either booked her vendors who are used to her ridgid timelines, or booked a different venue but I can’t go back now.
This is the location the phoog is suggesting.
Post # 2
It sounds like another location is your best bet. There’s no way to get all those photos done in 1 hour if you want to attend cocktail hour.
My cousin recently did her getting-ready photos, individual portraits, and their first look at the hotel where they were staying…. then, when they could get into their venue, they headed there all together and finished up family pictures there.
Post # 3
Jessi2883 : The venue owner said after the ceremony from 5:50-6:30 she takes us on a golf cart with our photog all over the grounds to do “romantic couples photos” so the rest would have to be done by then. That’s why she pushes the first look so hard. She said if we don’t do a first look and try to squeeze the rest in after that we would lose 40 min of reception time 🙁 Which is crucial for us! I asked the photog about doing as much as possible at the hotel and I think we will, but it really doesn’t have many good places to take pics.
Post # 4
Does your contract specify a that you can only arrive at 4PM? or do you have the venue for the entire day?
Post # 5
mrsbrizz2017 : I would do as many photos as possible at the other location. It’s not really ideal, but it’s beautiful and will save you so much stress on the day of.
I find it really strange that you are only allowed on the property an hour before. I would assume that you are the only person renting the estate that day? Weird.
She definitely seems kooky. Good luck with her!
Post # 6
mrsbrizz2017 : I think the location your photographer is suggesting looks lovely – and going that route would take a lot of stress off your shoulders.
Post # 7
I’ll possibly be taking first look and family photos at another location. Your alternate location does look beautiful, and I think having extra time and less stress sounds desirable. You’ll still get your romantic couple pics at your venue after the ceremony, so it seems like a win-win to me!
Post # 8
mrsbrizz2017 : What does your contract say regarding what time you can arrive?
The location your photographer suggested does look gorgeous (I wish we had somewhere like that near us so we could take pics there too).
Would it be possible to do both? So basically, take the bulk of the important family pics at the location your photographer suggested then take a few at the venue location too so you won’t be losing a lot of time.
Post # 9
Use the other location. It looks lovely and the only downside is an extra 7 minute journey, which is nothing as long as you remember to factor it in. Maybe do your first look at the other location and then meet family at the ceremony location at 4. An hour is definitely enough just for family shots.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK
We’re doing our first look and wedding party photos at a different location, about 15 mins from the ceremony/reception venue.
The reason for this is because we’re a little limited in good places for photos at the venue and we didn’t want everybody who was arriving to be watching us.
I will find a plan B photo site as well though, just in case the weather is awful!
Post # 11
Woman sounds like a kind of unhinged control freak – what does she care how you organize your photos? But I guess that’s part of the deal when you book with that venue.
I dunno, photos were kind of a hot mess at my wedding. We did photos separately before the ceremony (cause I didn’t want to see him until walking down the aisle), and then tried to cram in all family, bridal party, and bride & groom alone photos in like 45 min afterward and it was pretty stressful. I’m worried we didn’t get enough of just DH and me actually – will find out soon enough – but I didn’t want to be late to the reception so I kinda encouraged the photographer to rush through it. If I had to do it over again, I think I might actually start our ceremony 30 min earlier to allow more time for photos afterwards, since I was dead set on not doing a first look (which I don’t regret!).
Honestly, given your situation, I would use the other location for the group photos to cut down on stress. I think the photos you’ll look at most afterward will be the ones of just you and your groom, which will be at the venue if I understood correctly.
Post # 12
Do it at a different location, 100%. We did first look at 3 pm and wedding was at 5:30. We had plenty of time but we definitely spent 2 hours taking photos easily.
Post # 13
I would start at the separate location. It’s a pretty spot, and it will relieve a lot of stress. We did our first look at a different location. Our “first look” was fairly short (5-10 min?) but then we moved around for some couple portraits. Overall, we did:
2pm-3:30pm – first look/all couple portraits (included moving around the city, three different locations)
3:30pm-4:20pm – arrived at venue and did wedding party pictures and family portraits
4:30pm – wedding party hid in lounge as guests arrived
5pm ceremony start time
Family photos were surprisingly quick. Our photographers took us through the shot list in like 20 min, even though we have divorces on both sides so essentially 4 sets of parents. But I liked not feeling rushed!
Post # 14
mrsbrizz2017 : Get the photos done at a separate location. You don’t need any extra stress on your wedding day especially of something that can be avoided. With more time for pics you’re more likely to get nice ones since you won’t stressing being late to the ceremony.
Post # 15
Everything from the venue owner is ummm interesting. Everything is very wordy. It’s written how she actually talks. We have the property for 6 hours with a ceremony start time of 5:30. She was very convincing that six hours was a really comfortable timeframe. And I thought it would be, until I started getting the timelines for the day from everyone 😬
Another option I thought of is dressing at the hotel and trying to find somewhere there where we can do the first look pics. I might drive by there today, go walk around, and talk to them. If we could get all of that done and arrive at the venue at 4 we could hit the ground running I think we could do family photos in an hour if that’s all we had left right?