Am I just being hormonal?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
2114 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mrslovebug:  Maybwe he didn’t hear you call while he was loading up and getting read to go and when you questioned why he didn’t answer, perhaps he thought he had missed your call earlier when he WAS playing…..I mean you could dig into this all you want but it’s only going to start a fight! I wise woman once told me dont’ ask your husband where he’s been or what he’s been doing unless you plan on beleiving him =) and if oyu don’t then you have bigger problems. Having said all that, I think it is just hormones and a minor communication lapse….let it go, have a good weekend with your hubs! 

Post # 4
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Trivial things like this can build up into huge fights over nothing. I agree with previous poster he prob just wasn’t really thinking and assumed he was busy with the drums when you called. I try to pick my fights over serious issues than these thins now because my boyfriend would never get pissy with me over wee things like this so I try to be fair even if I am pissed about something stupid. Try and just remember the bigger picture in that it doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things x

Post # 5
2394 posts
Buzzing bee



Well, I agree with PP that this could be a miscommunication issue. On the other hand I’m wondering if you have had thoughts or questions like this before you were pregnant. 


Has there been a history of him saying things like this that didn’t add up, from time to time? Have you had these doubts before or is it something that just happened today/last night?


I’m a big believer in women’s intuition. Doesn’t mean anything wrong is going on. I just am wondering if you have had these thoughts before because if so, it would shed some light on the situation.




I also don’t think your hormones have anything to do with this. Being pregnant does not mean you lose the ability to sense situations correctly. Give yourself some credit and don’t be so quick to apologize for your thoughts just because of your hormones or your condition.

Pregnant women are vulnerable. It is natural and understandable that a pregnant woman wants to feel extra reassured that her partner is there for her… this ensures the survival of the species. There is nothing crazy or cuckoo about that.


Post # 6
7019 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m going to go against the first two PPs and say you should ask. Either there is an innocent explanation – in which case it’d be good to clear the air; or there isn’t – in which case he deserves to be questioned. I think how he reacts will also be interesting to see,

I really hope nothing is going on, and it’s just a case of a thoughtless husband who wants to be out more than he should. But it does bother me that you agreed to 3 nights a week (which I think is way too generous when  you already have one child as well as another on the way) and then he wants to go out another night as well. At best he is being very inconsiderate.

Post # 8
1057 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013


First, congratualtions on your pregnancy!! Secondly, I understand where you’re coming from, but it sounds completely innocent. Perhaps he was just saying goodbye to his buddies. I actually really like the fact that he called you back in a timely matter, it shows respect IMO. I have never been pregnant, but maybe you’re right and hormones are the at the root of this issue. Hope you guys talk about it and it makes you feel better! 🙂


Post # 9
3009 posts
Sugar bee

@Mrslovebug:  loosen the reins here a bit. What do you think he was doing? Maybe it was a general statement. Personally I am stuck on the negotiated nights out and having to ask permission to go out.  Also, how do you know his phone wasn’t on silent? I don’t know, this whole thing is a bit controlling   

Post # 10
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d leave it. Chances are he thought you called while he was drumming. My phone derps out with text messages and missed calls. If my husband texts me at 1:35 PM, it will tell me that I recieved it at 10:30 AM and it was delivered at 1:35 PM and I know that would be impossible since my husband and I were together at 10:30.

This sort of petty stuff isn’t worth an argument if you ask me. Pick your battles.

Post # 11
7019 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

To @mamadingdong : I think the reason for negotiated nights is they already have a child. (She mentioned this in a thread a few days ago).

Post # 12
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

haha or he possibly didn’t actually have the drums loaded up yet. My DH always tells me he’s 5 minutes away when it’s closer to 15. I would ask him face to face but really, don’t stress about it too much, it’s probably nothing. 
I would be putting my foot down about how often he goes out during the week though if you have a child and one on the way. 

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