Post # 1
We are having a destination wedding and it’s so hard to tell how many people will come. I thought I was playing it safe by just having my sister, future sister in laws, and cousin as bridesmaids because the wedding could be very small and I didn’t want to make anyone feel bad if I made 5 friends bridesmaids and then only two other friends showed up and weren’t bridesmaids. I also don’t have one group of ladies but rather a lot of friends who don’t know each other. But now I’m starting to feel like I might be missing out.
I would like my good friends who come to the wedding to feel special and part of it the way bridesmaids would, even if they don’t have that title and aren’t walking down the aisle. To me the whole “bridesmaid” thing is a formality anyway since I haven’t been treating them as bridesmaids or doing any of the things bridesmaids typically do, other than getting to walk down the aisle. My friends are important to me and I want them there for pictures and when we get ready, etc. I’ve spoken to them about it and they understand, they are chill about that sort of thing, but I feel like I want to do something so that they feel like a part of my wedding. I’m thinking maybe invite them to the spa the day-of and bachelorette at the destination and give out shirts and other goodies? Have my sister try to downplay the bridesmaid thing and emphasize that my girlies are important?
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I only had one lady on my side (my amazing sister-in-law), but made sure that my close girlfriends were able to be part of any part in the wedding and wedding planning that they so chose. My girls were invited to dress fittings (and treated to lunch afterwards), were part of my shower and my bachelorette, talked wedding stuff with me whenever they wanted to (4 of us got married in the same year, so we had so much fun planning together!), and they joined me in the bridal suite for girl time before the ceremony (I paid for their hair and make-up, and gave them thank you gifts, just like I did for MOH). Basically I treated all of my ladies them like I would any other time… as my wonderful friends…. regardless of what title they held in my ceremony. The distinction of maid v non-maid is only as important as you make it out to be. If you treat them well, they will all feel the love. 🙂
Post # 4
I don’t think this is anything to worry about. Ppl do not feel left out
Post # 5
I don’t think they’ll feel left out! If you want to include more people in the ceremony, you could have your reading read by a bunch of people, each reading one verse!
Post # 6
That sounds like a great idea and would be such a nice gesture (and an awesome way to spend the time leading up to your wedding!) I dont think you’re “missing out” necessarily, but the more the merrier if everyone is chill and gets along!
Post # 7
oh good, i’m glad to hear that it doesn’t seem like I am doing something strange. Would love to hear some more ideas from other ladies who have done stuff to make their non-bridesmaid girlie friends feel welcomed!