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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    Getting my pro proof book delivered to me today at 4...won't see DH until tomorrow morning (I have plans with friends and he has work in morning so I'm pretty sure he'll be in bed when I get home).  Am I mean that I full intend to go through all of our pictures without him?  We haven't seen a single pro picture yet (our photog won't put online until we see the images in person first).

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Haha... no! It would be mean to expect you to wait!!!

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    OMG no I would do the exact same thing! I'm sure he knows you're excited about it. Does he know you're getting the book today? I bet he fully expects you to rip into it as soon as it's in your hands.

     
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    teaadntoast    04/23/2010   New York, NY

    Depends on if your husband cares about the photos.

    Can you not call the ask him if he minds?

     
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    realeastcoaster    July 11, 2009   Canada

    It would be nice to wait, but let's be real - how many of us would be able to do that?!?! I'm sure he'll understand.

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    I don't know if it's mean or not, but I know there's no way I'd ever, ever be able to wait! And my husband knows that about me :-).

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Does he even care? If he cared, I would try to hold off as long as possible. If he doesn't care in the least (and lets face it, most guys I know wouldn't), HAVE AT IT! And post them!

     
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    AbbyM    October 17, 2009   Chicago, IL but getting married in Southern Minnesota

    OMG, I do not think I could wait! 

     
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    sunshinebride    July 30, 2010   California

    lol!  imatient, but definitely not mean!  i so wouldn't be able to wait, are you kidding me!?

     
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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    Oh no he doesn't care : )  My mom asked me "aren't you going to wait and look at them together?"  Which made me think I'm not romantic and just a tad impatient. 

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    Mr. DG just didn't care as much about the photos as I did (until he saw them, that is!)

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    No way!  I looked at all our pics without him too, I couldnt wait.  You can look at them again with him, Im sure you will want to go through it plenty more times.

     
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    Brianalaura    August 14, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    Bahaha!  I'd never wait unless he cared, and that is so not his type.  You said he doesn't care, so I'd totally go for it.  Look at it this way - then you can go through and show him the pictures you like best right away.  :-D

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    Psh, if he doesn't care, have at it! This way you can pull out the ones you LOVE and not make him go through the ones you don't like so much! So exciting!

     
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    Br1tSh1n1ngStar    10/17/09   New Jersey

    I would wait, but that's cause my husband would really want to see them with me for the first time. We had to wait like 2 days to look at our engagment pics.

     
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    arizonabride    June 2, 2010   Tucson, AZ

    I don't think I could wait. FI would care, but he might have to deal. I'm not patient with stuff like that!!

     
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    teaadntoast    04/23/2010   New York, NY

    If he doesn't care, then I'm not sure how you could be expected to wait!

     
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    mskalinin    Sept. 12, 2009   North East

    I think it depends on your husband. Mine would get soooooo mad if I looked at them without him, but if yours won't I would say don't torture yourself.

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    Nope! Look away!

     
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    hamster    May 30, 2010  

    Haha - if he doesn't care and you want to look, go for it!

     
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    eurekaanchovies    March 27, 2010  

    I was at work when I got the email that our engagement pictures were online, and I emailed my fiance to let him know so that we could look at them together. He emailed me back to say he was in the middle of cooking, and we could look at them tonight.

    Well, curiosity got the better of me and I started to peek. Then I stopped because I realized that he would be hurt if he knew I was looking without him, and moreover, I felt bad looking without him, since despite that I HATE waiting, I really do love when we do things like that together. So, I stopped looking.

    But I guess curiosity got the better of him, too, since he called me back right away and we started looking at them together, over the phone.

    But do whatever you're comfortable with!

     
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    Chachacha    June 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    Ummm, no! I would totally look. I definitely would not be able to wait.

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I probably wouldn't wait!  In fact, I didn't.  I emailed my husband right away when our pics went up on our photographer's site, but he was in a meeting and I had already seen them by the time he got to them.

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    Shoot no! I wouldn't even feel a twinge of guilt, ahah!

     
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    Erindesmar    October 17, 2009   Boston, MA

    Hehe I didn't wait and it was worth it....and my friends looked too...shhh!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    LOL i wouldn't have looked either!!!

     
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    twohearts    June 2010  

    LOL!  I wouldn't wait! But I had the opposite situation.  My fiance lives in the same town as our photographer, while I live hours away attending school.  My fiance picked up the pics about 3 days before I could come for a visit and see them.  I really, really didn't want him to look at them before me!! But then I realized I was being a little hypocritical, cause I knew if our positions were switched, I would definitely be looking at the first! :)  So instead, I just threatened his life if he showed ANYone else! 

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    Yay, you got to see them!  Can't wait, that means soon we'll start getting some sneak peeks into your day I hope :)

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I mean to say I WOULD have looked. Eesh. I definitely would have looked.

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    @ej - I was about to say! I so know you would have! ;)

     
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    luli29    October 9, 2010   Massachusetts

    I'd probably look at them!

     
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    ErinMarguerite    July 2009   DC Area

    My husband STILL hasn't looked at all of the 660+ pictures we got.  I think it's only fair you should get a head start.  Can't wait to see them!

     
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    cardigan    January 7, 2011   Austin, TX

    Go for it! I would do the same thing!

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    No. I don't think guys care about pictures as much as we do. lol. Go for it!

     

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