Am I missing something? Confused Bee here

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

ThisTimeRound does it to be cute. She knows a lot about official etiquette and this is how she prefaces posts so she doesn’t come across as a know-it-all.

I actually find it quite endearing… she has lots of useful info!

Post # 5
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

Don’t worry, I still don’t understand why people do it and I have been here a while.

Post # 6
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think it’s a way of bees not trying to offend others if others don’t really care about ettiquette … so it’s more like “don’t get offended, just how i see it…”

Post # 7
5697 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Well we all know who you are referring to. But if they want to call themselves that then why does it matter

Post # 8
496 posts
Helper bee

It is just one person and I think the effect of it is the opposite of what she intends. It , to me, is more off putting than if she just answered the bloody question

Post # 9
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@glue_stick:  It is their way of saying “I am going to give you the proper ettiquette whether or not it is the popular opinion.”

Post # 11
575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it’s mostly acknowledging that the “proper” way to do things (i.e., how a proclaimed “ettiquette snob” would do them) is often different from common usage, so to speak.  So an etiquette snob is alerting you that they’re telling you the “most correct” way to do things, the way Emily Post would have you do it, but that’s not an absolute thing and your mileage may vary.  

Etiquette is really culturally and contextually driven, so the etiquette authorities are frequently speaking to how white folks in the upper middle and upper classes of America and England are supposed to do things.  For the rest of us, our customs might not align with that, so prefacing posts with being an “etiquette snob” is a nice way of pointing out that the answer you’re about to get is by the book, for whatever value that might have for you.

Post # 13
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

[moderated for personal attack]

Post # 16
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Wow. Ya’ll are harsh, particularly seeing as said person is always very nice and tries to be helpful. I’ve certainly never seen her say anything mean about the posting style of another Bee, which is more than can be said for some on this post.

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