Post # 1
Hello Bees. I’m new here but I have been lurking for a bit. I have a silly question and I’m just wondering if I’m clueless. Why is it that so many posts in the Etiquette thread start off with people calling themselves ‘etiquette snobs?
I’m confused…is it okay to call yourself a ‘snob’? Does following etiquette make you snobby? I like following customs that dictate courtesy but I sure hope it doesn’t make me snobby. Or is this a Wedding Bee term?
I hope I don’t get flamed for this but I’ve seen it SO many times and I’m genuinely confused.
This is what I mean:
Post # 3
@glue_stick: She is just teasing herself.
Post # 4
ThisTimeRound does it to be cute. She knows a lot about official etiquette and this is how she prefaces posts so she doesn’t come across as a know-it-all.
I actually find it quite endearing… she has lots of useful info!
Post # 5
Don’t worry, I still don’t understand why people do it and I have been here a while.
Post # 6
I think it’s a way of bees not trying to offend others if others don’t really care about ettiquette … so it’s more like “don’t get offended, just how i see it…”
Post # 7
Well we all know who you are referring to. But if they want to call themselves that then why does it matter
Post # 8
It is just one person and I think the effect of it is the opposite of what she intends. It , to me, is more off putting than if she just answered the bloody question
Post # 9
@glue_stick: It is their way of saying “I am going to give you the proper ettiquette whether or not it is the popular opinion.”
Post # 10
@MsJ2theZ: I am only asking because I am confused as to the link between being mindful of etiquette and being a ‘snob’. It is not a direct attack and honestly, I’ve seen it many times so just assumed it was various posters, not just one.
Post # 11
I think it’s mostly acknowledging that the “proper” way to do things (i.e., how a proclaimed “ettiquette snob” would do them) is often different from common usage, so to speak. So an etiquette snob is alerting you that they’re telling you the “most correct” way to do things, the way Emily Post would have you do it, but that’s not an absolute thing and your mileage may vary.
Etiquette is really culturally and contextually driven, so the etiquette authorities are frequently speaking to how white folks in the upper middle and upper classes of America and England are supposed to do things. For the rest of us, our customs might not align with that, so prefacing posts with being an “etiquette snob” is a nice way of pointing out that the answer you’re about to get is by the book, for whatever value that might have for you.
Post # 12
@mistress_anne: I see what you guys mean but I still don’t see the link between that particular disclaimer and the rules of etiquette. I guess a different term could be used is all But hey, if it works I guess.
Post # 13
[moderated for personal attack]
Post # 14
@blushpinkbride: LOL. I don’t get the capitalization either.
Post # 16
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Wow. Ya’ll are harsh, particularly seeing as said person is always very nice and tries to be helpful. I’ve certainly never seen her say anything mean about the posting style of another Bee, which is more than can be said for some on this post.