Post # 1
DH and I have been TTC since last year. We got married in August and started TTC right away. All in all, we’ve been TTC for about 7 months, or 8 cycles. In that time, I have monitored CM, charted temperatures, used Pre-seed and Conceive Plus, used OPKs, BDed every day, twice a day, every other day, I’ve taken prenatals, changed my diet, stressed, not stressed, stressed again, tried reflexology.. I am sure you get my drift!
I’ve posted before about how I get midcycle bleeding (spotting). It happens EVERY cycle for at least the past 2-3 years on or around CD12-14. I ovulate pretty much around those days, at the earliest CD13 and the latest CD15. I finally insisted on a gynae referral last month and I’m waiting for my appointment to come through. The Doctor also did some hormonal checks, to check it wasn’t anovulatory breakthrough bleeding – it wasn’t, my progesterone levels were good, and everything else was normal. She thinks it’s probably to do with a sudden rise/fall in some hormones (I can’t remember which) but I suppose when I go to the hospital for my appointment they’ll look into it further.
Anyway, I’m really frightened. I can’t stop thinking it’s never going to happen. I know it’s only been 8 cycles/7 months or whatever, but it seems like I hear a pregnancy announcement every other day, and everyone I’ve spoken to has either gotten pregnant by accident, or within a month or so of TTC! I don’t know what to do anymore..is this normal to take so long? I almost wanted my bloods to show something wrong, just so I could go ‘Yep, that’s why!’ and they could put it right. Of course I’m glad I am healthy and don’t have any issues..I’m just so fed up of TTC right now. Did anyone else take this long and go on to have a healthy pregnancy without assistance?
<br />I also forgot to mention we did a sperm test at home and that came back with good motility/count too.
Does anyone have any advice or encouragement please bees? Thank you 🙂
Post # 2
Lillyrose: I highly recommend you head over the to TTC 6+ month thread or the TTC 1+ year thread (you don’t have to be trying for a year to go there, they are SUPER friendly and helpful!). They helped me more than I could have even imagined. I know it’s hard, but it will get a bit easier, there will always be bad days… don’t get me wrong. But what really helped me was focusing on what another month of being able to do _____ would do for us. For me it was working on projects around the house… This month I re-painted/decorated our bedroom and completely renovated our closet, it was a great distraction.
FX your tests have good results and you get a BFP soon!
Post # 3
Sorry you are having rotten luck! It sounds like your mid-cycle spotting is ovulatory bleeding, and nothing to worry about. In fact, it can be sign of a good, strong ovulation.
Post # 4
What at home sperm test did you use? I’ve never heard of such a thing, but I’m in the same boat as you (same amount of months and cycles trying) and have been wondering about DH’s sperm count/quality.
Keep your head up! It is normal to not get pregnant right away. Like you, I’ve been struggling and wondering if I’m normal or what’s wrong with me. Just try to think positive. I’ve had a couple doctors tell me now that as soon as I stop trying, it’ll happen. WHAT?!!! How on earth am I supposed to stop trying when everything in me is like…KEEP TRYING!! 😉 What a roller coaster ride.
Post # 5
Lillyrose: Sorry I don’t have much to say other than we have the EXACT same story same timeline and everything. I just made an appointment for a fertility clinic and we’re going next Thursday and I’m pretty nervous. I’ve found talking about it helps, you should join the charters thread. Other than that I’m discouraged and cry every time AF shows up. I’m sorry you’re going through this, you aren’t alone.. you can PM me if you’d like. *hugs*
Post # 6
You’re normal! It took DH and I 8 cycles to conceive. Then we had a miscarriage, and it took ANOTHER 8 months to conceive this baby, and I’m 30 weeks now. Nothing wrong with either of us. Sometimes it just takes a while! They say anything up to a year is normal. Try to stay positive – I know it’s hard! For me, I think I just let it go out of my head. I was so anxious for so long that I just wouldn’t allow myself to think about it anymore. But it will happen! Hugs!
Post # 7
Lillyrose: I’m so sorry you are feeling like this but it looks like you are doing all the right things. I was trying for 8 cycles and DH had his SA booked and I had a gyne booked. A couple of days before it I got my BFP. Unfortunately I had a MC at 10 weeks and am TTC again. It is now over a year since this all started and I can safely say it has been the toughest year of my life. I think you are absolutely right getting tested and covering all bases. It just takes some couples longer to concieve but in case there is something wrong it’s worth getting things checked. My friends are wondering why I’m getting tested already, but to be honest, I’m sick of waiting around and want to take things into my own hands. Nobody else is going to look after us. Also, may be get an SA for your DH. The at home tests only check sperm count but there are so many other important factors too that it won’t show.