Am I ok to be annoyed??

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
1381 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Can you go to the store and see it in person before you pay the remaining balance? I’m sure the jeweler would let you take a peek even though you aren’t ready to pay the balance. They should even let you take a picture.

Post # 4
11604 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I can see why you’d be annoyed, but technically since you haven’t paid for it in full yet, it’s not yours.  They did the work and want to showcase it.

I’m sure if you went to the store you could see it in person.

Post # 5
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@UKbee:  yes, you have every right to be annoyed. It’s usually a given that they give you a picture of your ring once it’s done isn’t it? 

Post # 6
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@UKbee:  Yeah..NO.  There is no grounds to start getting upset over this.  You may have designed it, but the jeweler made it, and until you come pay for the remaining balance on that ring, its technically theirs and if they want to hang it from the celing and let people get smacked in the head with it on their way in the shop, they can.

If it matters that much to you, that no one should clap eyes on this ring BUT you, get in there and pick it up.

Besides, how do you think this jeweler got its sterling reputation, but showing the good work they do, of course!  Its ok, its still your ring, just let a few people oogle it for a while!

Post # 7
6666 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s not your ring until you pay for it. 

Post # 8
1208 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

Until the oayment is made in full, you do not own it so I think you are overreacting.

Post # 10
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t see what the big deal is. They technically made the product so it’s their design and they can do what they want with it.  You haven’t paid for it yet, so you don’t really even own it so it’s not “your” ring they are sharing.  Just go into the store and ask to see it if you don’t want to wait.

Post # 11
3095 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Unfortunately, while it’s an annoying situation for sure, they aren’t doing anything wrong. You did pay a hefty amount towards the ring, yes, but you haven’t paid for it in full, so they still “own” half of it. Secondly, they made the ring, though it’s your design, it was still made by them and they certainly can post it on their website without your permission. Perhaps they have a policy at their shop where they can’t just snap a picture of a ring and send it off? When my ring was being made, I asked for photo updates, but was denied. I was a bit chuffed, but eventually had to stomach it and hope it turned out for the best.

Have you explained the situation to them? That you won’t be able to stop by and see it for the rest of the week due to work restraints? Can your FI or even a trusted family member stop by and snap on a picture this week while you’re at work?

Post # 12
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@UKbee:  I’d be proud that a ring I designed was on their website. They actually physically made it, plus it’s not yours yet, so I guess that’s why it’s ok.

Post # 13
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’ve been in a similar situation – my FI had my ring specially designed for me by a local jeweller. A few weeks after he proposed I spotted my ring in a tv ad for the same jeweller! It’s on his website too and I’m certain it’s the same ring except he has it listed as 1.5 carats when it’s actually 1.23 which is a bit odd. I decided the best way to deal with it was to see it as a compliment – my ring is so beautiful that he wants to show it off. I can see why you’re annoyed but I would try not to let it get to you, it’s really not worth the stress. 

Post # 14
1779 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1997

@UKbee:  It’s your design, you’ve invested in it and they should never have put that out there like that to benefit themselves for marketing purposes!  I’d be po’ed too.

Something similar happened to us with our house and a sales hole realtor who knew our builder. He came on our property after we lived there (had to as our house was on acreage/ no view from the street and the pic had the flowers/hedges, personal touches we added) to take a picture and then used that picture to market other houses! WTF! Holy trespassing and false advertising Batman. I had the pic removed from his advertising.

OP I’d call the jeweler on it.

Post # 15
6407 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d be peeved if my jeweler used my ring for their advertising (they don’t run any advertising, so moot point, but still). And my FI didn’t pay a dime until my entire ring was ready to sit on my hot little hand.

Then again I’m also “one of those brides” who thinks I pay enough for photography that they can’t use those photos for advertising themselves either (and I make sure the contract is clear on that).

I have decided that “those” = knows what she wants and makes sure to get it. 🙂

Post # 16
852 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@UKbee:  Did you ask if there was any chance they could email you a sneaky peek unedited snap? Maybe they just didnt think about sending you a basic shot to look at?

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