Post # 1
my boyfriend of 3 years and a half dumped me around thanksgiving a few months ago. I was devastated, tried to get him back anyway i could and he wouldn’t budge.
Recently, i have decided to move on and i met a really nice guy, we had been seeing each other for 2 weeks when my ex came back in thepicture and now he wants me back. I kept hanging out with the new guy, but i started having doubts… I kept telling myself that maybe i was making a mistake by not giving another chance to my ex, who is now offering me marriage and babies. Keep in mind that he didn’t want any kids before.
So i went back, i have been seeing him again 2-3 times over the last couple weeks, but i can’t feel anything. No love, no passion. He gives me hugs and kisses and hold my hands and I don’t feel anything. How can that be? I keep thinking about the guy i met recently. But i wonder if he’s just a rebound… I don’t know if my lack of feelings for my ex boyfriend is due to the fact that he hurt me ver much and i have my guard up or i just don’t love him anymore and i moved on.
Anybody lived something similar? I dno’t know what to do. Do i keep seeing him and see if the feelings come back or i’m just wasting my time?
Post # 3
If someone has hurt you so badly, sometimes it’s just better to walk away then trying to make it work. The new guy, just might be a rebound, or a wake up call to let you know there’s good guys out there.
Post # 4
If you dont feel anything then forget about him!
Post # 5
I would assume you have moved on. Dont punish yourself and keep trying to have feelings if you do not anymore. Life is too short, enjoy yourself and someone you have feelings for 🙂
Post # 6
Your feelings should come naturally to you. Try not to be in an exclusive relationship with your ex. Just do the casual dating scene for a bit. See if your feelings for him re-egnite. This way there won’t be any added pressure either that you must be with him and only him. Remember, you are casual dating…
If nothing happens for a reasonable amount of time, then move on. This will give you proper closure as well that there really wasn’t anything left to salvage.
Post # 7
Similar situation happened to me, but I actually brokeup with my ex of 3 yrs. b/c things just weren’t working. He was pushing me away further and further emotionally. I moved forward and very quickly started dating a new guy assuming he was a rebound. My Ex later tried to change his ways and win me back. I honestly felt nothing towards him. 4 years later and I’m enaged to the “rebound guy” and he’s the love of my life! I couldn’t be happier and so happy I never went back to my previous relationship. I say move forward and don’t look back!